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User Topic: Update on he doesn't know that I know
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my previous thread I was asking for suggestions as to giving my husband his birthday party surprise. I made sure to invite the OW who's been pretending to be my friend.

Husband's surprise birthday party was something he'll never forget

The OW is his work colleague and someone who befriended me. Last week I asked her to go shopping with me to help with picking out his gift from me.

To the OW's surprise I took her to a porn shop. I bought a super sized butt plug explaining that my husband loved me giving him anal. I bought body oil explaining he loved to give me massages. I even made sure to walk awkwardly saying I was sore from the previous evening of being ridden like a mare by my stallion.

I enjoyed reading their exchanges after my shopping trip with OW, whom I like to refer to as Hauren.

The birthday surprise party was this past Saturday. My sister's boyfriend, who was in on my surprise took hubby golfing and drinking the entire day as I was at home getting my stuff into a moving van.

I was packed and gone by the time hubby returned home to balloons on and a surprise banner on our door.

Inside the nearly empty apartment I had scattered sheets and sheets of evidence I had printed off.

I had a card for him that sad f**k you and my lawyer will be in touch.

I'm staying with my sister. I've been crying most of the time, not for him but for me.

I loved that jackass, but I'm going to love me more.


Posts: 63 | Registered: Aug 2013
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AND THE CROWD GOES WILD!!

STANDING OVATION!

You rock. Best EFF YOU departure I've seen in a long time.

Hope you are ok and taking care of yourself. Hugs..


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3523 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Offhispedestal
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You sound like this was definitely a deal breaker for you. I dont know how you managed to keep this to yourself for months. What happened after he showed up?? (((Hugs to you)))


ME-44
WH-45
Married 24


2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)

In R


Posts: 629 | Registered: Jun 2011
summerain
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wow, handled like a pro
*claps*


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Karmita,

I bow to the master.

And I am green with envy.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 666 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Karmita,

I bow to the master.

And I am green with envy.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 666 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
summerain
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

p.s has he tried to contact you?


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
Titanium
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Happy  Posted: 11:21 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BRAVO! BRAVO! BRAVO!

Love a gutsy courageous woman.....you made my YEAR!!!!!

"I am woman hear me roar"

Take really good care of yourself.......you deserve it.

(((((Hugs )))))


BS me 48
Him 45 NPD/SA fucktard
1 beautiful DS
M 20 yr T 24
DD#1 Jan 12
DD#2 Aug 12 LTA/PA with pond scum
Divorced....... :))
Shoot me down but I wont fall.
I am Titanium

Posts: 92 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow!!! The best post I have read in awhile. You go girl!!! I guess he knows now. I wished I had remained as strong as you, but I was blindsided by a call from OW, otherwise I would like to think I could have handled it the same way. Let us know his reaction. (((HUGS)))


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone but I don't feel like a rock star.

These past few months have taken it's toll on me. I don't know how cheaters do it with living a double life. Pretending to be normal while I was nauseous as I collected evidence has been excruciating.

If it had not been for my sister who'd been through two d-days until she finally kicked her husband to curb
and was my teacher and my rock and allowed me handle being betrayed and my moment of fuck you to hubby.

As to hubby, he's been burning my cell phone with texts and voice mail.
I haven't spoken to him since Saturday morning.


Posts: 63 | Registered: Aug 2013
allusions
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wait a minute! What happened to the butt plug? Did you attach the F you note to it?

Posts: 292 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: California Central Coast
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hopefully she shoved it up the OW's ass.

Oh, whoops. Did I just type that out loud?


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3523 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Oh yeah...about the butt plug and massage oil I had it wrapped in box for Hauren. Oh and I added some real shit to go with it.

Posts: 63 | Registered: Aug 2013
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Karmita)))

As an after thought to my post. I can only imagine the pain that you have been going through with knowing this and keeping it inside for so long. I am so sorry.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
Lucky
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Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This one might become a classic...


♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥


Posts: 36162 | Registered: Apr 2005
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 12:03 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my this is magical.....I could actually see it while you were describing it!!!!! Glad you got to have the last laugh. Too many of us take so long to truly laugh again with gusto!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
millienotboo
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it!


M-8 yrs together 11
Me-45 BW
Him-49-WH
D-Day 10-10-2008
In R

Posts: 754 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: South
momentintime
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Default  Posted: 12:44 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Karmita I hope you are keeping it together. I am sure you are in tremendous pain. I don't know if this was a dealbreaker for you, but understand the turmoil will continue for quite some time. Regardless if you file or if you do try to R.

I am sure you shocked the hell out of him. He deserved it. Take care of you. No matter what you decide to do in the future, we are all here to support you either way.

Get a good night's sleep if you can. Let your heart slow down from the rapid race it has been doing. Breathe and give yourself time to think about what you want your future to look like. You did good, but I am sure it hasn't been easy now that you have blown the A wide open.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl


Posts: 2901 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
trebleclef
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Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOW! You are one amazingly together chickie! I totally understand the special hell of "knowing" while still having to pretend you don't - BTDT. I can't imagine how you managed to keep your cool - out with the OW! I would have been a shaking mess. BIG HUGS - this is the hard part.


True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 1:21 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I admire your ability to "play along" as you collected evidence ~ Good God that must require huge self control.

As for that birthday surprise...THE BEST!

You should become a Party Planner for BS.

That aside, I know you are hurting and I am sorry for your pain. You are obviously a strong woman with a wonderful support system. You will get through this. {{{Karmita}}}


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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