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User Topic: How did you pick your user name?
kernel
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used to work for The NSA and kernel is a reference to a cover identity I used when I was working in what used to be East Germany, way back before the wall came down. Let’s just say the situation I got into when I was using that identity fit the situation I found myself in after D-day – FUBAR. I lived to never tell the tale of kernel, but found myself FUBAR all over again in a completely different context – infidelity and abandonment. SI wouldn’ t take FUBAR.
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JK! After several rejected names, I just put what I saw on my dinner plate – a kernel of corn. But I like the spy story better. My youngest DD would totally get a kick out of it. I really did work for NSA but I wasn’t a spy, there were no cover identities, all very boring. Nothing to see there, but she is so tickled that I used to work there. I got accused of keeping it a secret when she found it out recently. The truth was, it was long before she was even born and just wasn’t ever relevant until all the recent scandals.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5190 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
aesir
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kernel, you missed your calling. Making up shit like that is the job of <redacted agency> not the NSA.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
kernel
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol! Well, I know that, aesir but Hollywood says otherwise. I was just watching an episode of NCIS and about 10 different undercover types pulled guns and one of them was NSA. They must have been working in a different building.

[This message edited by kernel at 7:21 PM, September 9th (Monday)]


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5190 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Clarrissa
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How I came up with my name is actually kinda boring, at least I think so.

Every once in a while I get the urge to write stories. Clarrissa was a main character in one of them. This was years ago and that particular story is now decomposing somewhere in a landfill, a victim of Dday aftermath.


BH Cee64D - 48
WW (me) - 49


All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.


Posts: 5890 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: A better place
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm an avoider of conflict, hard conversations, and calling people on their shit, in every aspect of my life, head in the sand where I can pretend all is well, if I don't see it, its not real, righ??? Headupmyass wasn't available..


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5066 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
ExposedNiblet
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Being totally unimaginative with regards to things like this at the best of times, I used the first automatic name generator I could find online.

Looking back now, I wish I would have at least given it some thought and tried to come up with my own.

Oh well, live & learn.



Divorced
Me ($39.95 plus S & H)
DS1(17), DS2(15)

Enjoying this chapter in my life.
Learning that being alone does not mean being lonely.
Discovering that where I've been is not as important as where I'm going.


Posts: 355 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Right Here, Canada
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine was the login for my laptop that he used to contact women and start his affair. Thought it was appropriate, and it sounds kinda friendly, eh? LOL


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1207 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kernel, you had me going for a minute gah!

I stumbled upon SI about 5 weeks after DDay. I already knew my course of action but was having so much trouble managing the emotional upheaval. I wanted to remind myself that my choice to leave was what was "better for me" while WXH and his family pressured me to make a choice that was better for "him"...


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3156 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
dameia
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is similar to Ama...trying to figure out what to do, I look around and see a jar of macadameia nuts. I just shortened it to dameia.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.


Posts: 1155 | Registered: Jul 2012
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The first names I tried were taken. They all had to do with Betrayed I think.

Since the OW has the same first name as me, I didn't want to use it. Not to mention that wouldn't be anonymous.

Lola is the name my nephew called me when he was small since he was mispronouncing my real name.
And I have twins, 2 kids.

Just as and aside, I am so disapointed that Exposed Niblet didn't have some great story behind it. Sorry EN, but I always wondered about your screen name.

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 1:07 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)]


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1405 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wanted a name that described how I felt in a nut shell, and simplydevastated covered it. I love my screen name. I like being called SD


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So many mysteries cleared up! There's one more I gotta know, but etiquette prevents me from saying who...


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well PM them and ask them to post their story.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3421 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TT...

Now I'm totally curious as to who it is.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24546 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
unfound
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't care what she says, jrc1963 stands for "just right cantaloupes" (in my mind and how I've always read it). 63 was just a good year


ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

Posts: 14852 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T/j

Unfound, how did you know I had good melons?

End T/j


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24546 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At that moment. Everything was a cluster f*ck.


Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

Posts: 505 | Registered: Jan 2013
HeartStings
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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When WH was trying to rationalize his "affair," he said he was overweight and was having heart stings. He thought he was going to die, damn it, and he deserved to have a (fake) subservient third worlder worship him! Not that she wants our money and a green card....no! It's true love.

Posts: 117 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New England
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

XH used to call me Spock.

Vulcanization is the process by which rubber becomes stronger. Seemed kinda apt.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 756 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
brokensmile322
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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Took the name from one of my favorite Maroon 5 songs....

"Look for the girl with the broken smile..."

That's me, I may be smiling to everyone on the outside, but I was a hot mess on the inside.

Thus, the girl with a broken smile.


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


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