Topic: How did you pick your user name?
Member # 30434
| Posted: 6:13 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Didn't want to give up, and just living was in consideration.
WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
My dog farted, startled himself, wondered where the noise came from. I wish my life was as simple.
Posts: 602 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
Member # 31217
| Posted: 6:28 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
After D-day, I saw an image of a man trying to stand on marbles. Of course you can't stand on marbles and that was how I saw fWH at the time and how he really was. I didn't want to reinforce anymore weakness in myself so I choose standing on marble as a way to encourage strength in myself.
At one time he was a man standing on marbles. Now I am a woman standing on marble.....
We are done fighting with each other and decide to fight FOR each other.
Posts: 714 | Registered: Feb 2011
Member # 14993
| Posted: 6:38 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I used the five digit passcode for MangleHeart's luggage...
Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.
Posts: 17093 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
Member # 34353
| Posted: 7:42 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I tried another name and couldn't get on the site, so I just put my initial, his and both my sons
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1498 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 38763
| Posted: 9:13 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
So many mysteries come to light! Yay!
Mine is pretty simple. I'm beautiful and it's never mattered one bit. Inside...outside...two different men in marriage and I wasn't enough for either of them.
Now, I'm empty because it's really hard to stay human after 20+ years of almost constant fuckery.
Hopefully I won't always be this way.
Me: 42 BS
Him: 38 ws
Ow: 44 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 21, 18, 17, 15, 10
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.
Posts: 186 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington State
Member # 32660
| Posted: 10:37 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I tried "betrayedforyears" but it was taken. So, I used the Italian translation. Ciao
Me- BS (63)
M- 42 yrs
dday#1 11/09, Dday #2 10/11 and many since
P.A.'s - too many to count
LTA's too many to count (one for 37 yrs)
escorts etc- way too many to count.
Broken heart- too many times to count.
R- Getting bet
Posts: 399 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Member # 39911
| Posted: 12:13 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
The "broken" part is obvious. :( I have danced most of my life, - ballet, tap, theater, etc. I thought "broken dancer" was kind of a word play on "break dancer", although my old ass can't break dance at all! I just like the number 7.
Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 55
Married 33 yrs
Latest DD - April 2013, PA
Posts: 140 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 35417
| Posted: 5:22 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
Its what I want to do.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Posts: 1796 | Registered: Apr 2012
Member # 41181
| Posted: 8:05 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
My youngest called me Boss Ass Bitch when I confronted STBX after my girls discovered his cheating. I was born in 61.
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
Posts: 1104 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Member # 1224
| Posted: 8:43 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
Shiloe is the name of my horse.
But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed
Posts: 449 | Registered: Mar 2003
Member # 41961
| Posted: 8:50 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
Because I am scared of WH, my future, and what will happen.... He has broken our marriage vows, and I'm finally broken down and giving up on him...
BS: Me 43 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for
Posts: 352 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
Member # 40170
| Posted: 8:52 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I was hurt but not so much that I can't be repaired. Working on on it.
Me BS 32
Divorcing, though he isn't on board.
DDay July 13'
Posts: 234 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 40022
| Posted: 9:16 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I was just a few weeks out from Dday and was pretty sure I wanted to try to work on the marriage, but still feeling devastated.
Madhatters, M 31 yrs
FWW/BS 57-BS/FWH 56
Separated 5 mos in 07.His DDay,11/07.False R since 07. My DDay,7/5/13."Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit
Posts: 126 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: United States
Member # 41745
| Posted: 10:12 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
Greek mythology...the Phoenix a bird gets destroyed and dies by fire then rises from the ashes and is reborn/ renewed...seemed appropriate being that it feels like he really burned me to my death living through all this...but I'm hopeful I will rise from the ash restoring my former glory and beauty
Him: WH... SURPRISE!
Me: baby making last name taking object aka BS
M: 9 yrs dated 2 yrs engaged 1
Known him:?! yrs
D Day: 5 mo don't want to put TMI you never know if homewrecking sith whores are stalking jedis 1000 times more classy
Posts: 151 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
Member # 38958
| Posted: 10:55 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
When I first found SI, I considered my family to consist of myself and my four children. I love them dearly and I kept going only for them.
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
Posts: 286 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 37468
| Posted: 11:06 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I used a random username generator because I didn't want the username to have any possible link to me.
Well.. I did cheat a bit. I selected the one I found the most amusing out of several.
Me: born 1982.
DD: born 2006 (I have abt 80% custody).
Divorced Jul 2013.
Posts: 394 | Registered: Nov 2012
Member # 34262
| Posted: 11:28 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
It's a combo of my high school mascot and my college colors. The 4 was because Gmail already had purple jacket 1-3?!?
Me: BS 44
Her: fWS 47 (same sex partner)
Together: 17 now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish
Posts: 1719 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Member # 41568
| Posted: 12:54 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014|
Found SI within a Day or two of Dday and moving out.. Just how I felt...
Mostly not so lost and have found hope again...Yay..
Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....
Posts: 93 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: WI
Member # 38973
| Posted: 1:06 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014|
I've had a lot of early childhood trauma and as a teen identified with the Pink Floyd song, "Comfortably Numb." outside of early abuse (by someone I had lived with then, not my parents), my dad was also a serial cheater. when mom would find out the world became like that song to me. Unreal. Surreal.
I thought I had left such type trauma way behind until I was struck numb again by encountering the email that proved my husband's affair. A very weird moment. It was like I was in the corner of the room watching my body read it.
[This message edited by StruckNumb at 1:18 AM, February 2nd (Sunday)]
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Is there an end to blindness in sight?
Posts: 76 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: N.California
Member # 40937
| Posted: 4:01 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014|
I stress bake. My kids teachers and my neighbors get lots of treats.
BS me 38
WH him 39
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids
Posts: 111 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Kansas City
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