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still-living
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Member # 30434
Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didn't want to give up, and just living was in consideration.


BH(me)47
WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
Married 06/91
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14

My dog farted, startled himself, wondered where the noise came from. I wish my life was as simple.


Posts: 682 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
standingonmarble
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Member # 31217
Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After D-day, I saw an image of a man trying to stand on marbles. Of course you can't stand on marbles and that was how I saw fWH at the time and how he really was. I didn't want to reinforce anymore weakness in myself so I choose standing on marble as a way to encourage strength in myself.


At one time he was a man standing on marbles. Now I am a woman standing on marble.....

We are done fighting with each other and decide to fight FOR each other.


Posts: 737 | Registered: Feb 2011
SerJR
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Member # 14993
Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used the five digit passcode for MangleHeart's luggage...


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

Posts: 17093 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
jjsr
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Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I tried another name and couldn't get on the site, so I just put my initial, his and both my sons


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1587 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
BeautifulEmpty
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Member # 38763
Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So many mysteries come to light! Yay!
Mine is pretty simple. I'm beautiful and it's never mattered one bit. Inside...outside...two different men in marriage and I wasn't enough for either of them.
Now, I'm empty because it's really hard to stay human after 20+ years of almost constant fuckery.

Hopefully I won't always be this way.


Me: 42 BS
Him: 38 ws
Ow: 44 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 21, 18, 17, 15, 10
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.

Posts: 237 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington State
traditoperanni
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Member # 32660
Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I tried "betrayedforyears" but it was taken. So, I used the Italian translation. Ciao


Me- BS (63)
Him-WS (63)
M- 42 yrs
dday#1 11/09, Dday #2 10/11 and many since
P.A.'s - too many to count
LTA's too many to count (one for 37 yrs)
escorts etc- way too many to count.
Broken heart- too many times to count.
R- Getting bet

Posts: 427 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
brokendancer7
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Member # 39911
Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The "broken" part is obvious. :( I have danced most of my life, - ballet, tap, theater, etc. I thought "broken dancer" was kind of a word play on "break dancer", although my old ass can't break dance at all! I just like the number 7.


Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs

Latest DD - April 2013, PA


Posts: 179 | Registered: Jul 2013
WhatsRight
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Member # 35417
Default  Posted: 5:22 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its what I want to do.


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy


Posts: 1850 | Registered: Apr 2012
BAB61
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Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My youngest called me Boss Ass Bitch when I confronted STBX after my girls discovered his cheating. I was born in 61.


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
shiloe
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Member # 1224
Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shiloe is the name of my horse.


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

Posts: 569 | Registered: Mar 2003
scarednbroken
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Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Because I am scared of WH, my future, and what will happen.... He has broken our marriage vows, and I'm finally broken down and giving up on him...


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
Chippednotbroken
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Member # 40170
Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was hurt but not so much that I can't be repaired. Working on on it.


Me BS 32
DDay July 13'
3 young kids

Posts: 291 | Registered: Aug 2013
Trying2Survive1
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Member # 40022
Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just a few weeks out from Dday and was pretty sure I wanted to try to work on the marriage, but still feeling devastated.


Madhatters, M 31 yrs
FWW/BS 57-BS/FWH 56
Separated 5 mos in 07.His DDay,11/07.False R since 07. My DDay,7/5/13."Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

Posts: 128 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: United States
phoenixrise
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Member # 41745
Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Greek mythology...the Phoenix a bird gets destroyed and dies by fire then rises from the ashes and is reborn/ renewed...seemed appropriate being that it feels like he really burned me to my death living through all this...but I'm hopeful I will rise from the ash restoring my former glory and beauty


"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

Posts: 212 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
meplusfour
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Member # 38958
Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I first found SI, I considered my family to consist of myself and my four children. I love them dearly and I kept going only for them.


BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

Posts: 349 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
ProbableIceCream
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Member # 37468
Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used a random username generator because I didn't want the username to have any possible link to me.

Well.. I did cheat a bit. I selected the one I found the most amusing out of several.


Me: born 1982.
DD: born 2006 (I have abt 80% custody).
My D-Day was April 2012. Divorced Jul 2013.

Posts: 676 | Registered: Nov 2012
purplejacket4
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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a combo of my high school mascot and my college colors. The 4 was because Gmail already had purple jacket 1-3?!?


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2069 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
lostandhopless
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Member # 41568
Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Found SI within a Day or two of Dday and moving out.. Just how I felt...
Mostly not so lost and have found hope again...Yay..


Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....

Divorced 6/13/14


Posts: 112 | Registered: Dec 2013
StruckNumb
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Member # 38973
Default  Posted: 1:06 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've had a lot of early childhood trauma and as a teen identified with the Pink Floyd song, "Comfortably Numb." outside of early abuse (by someone I had lived with then, not my parents), my dad was also a serial cheater. when mom would find out the world became like that song to me. Unreal. Surreal.

I thought I had left such type trauma way behind until I was struck numb again by encountering the email that proved my husband's affair. A very weird moment. It was like I was in the corner of the room watching my body read it.

[This message edited by StruckNumb at 1:18 AM, February 2nd (Sunday)]


me-BW-51
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Attempting R
Is there an end to blindness in sight?

Posts: 76 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: N.California
Flourgirl
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Member # 40937
Default  Posted: 4:01 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I stress bake. My kids teachers and my neighbors get lots of treats.


BS me 38
WH him 39
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids

Posts: 171 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Kansas City
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