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User Topic: AP, who are they?
SecondHelping
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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AP#1: No idea. we moved before I found out.

AP#2: deputy police chief of some podunck town. High school grad who couldn't get accepted to state police

[This message edited by SecondHelping at 6:24 AM, September 9th (Monday)]


D-Day 1: Feb 1990 (2 yrs into M, kissing and a hickey)
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/3 week PA)
BS 49- Me, fWW 43- Her (Amibroken)
OP- Deputy Chief of Police from the town next to us! (Age 37)
Married 25 Years, Together 28
3 Kids (17, 14, 11)

Posts: 481 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Delmarva
noprincess
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Member # 38660
Default  Posted: 6:40 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW1 - Good Catholic girl. Lives at home with her mom - rich, spoiled brat. Was 20 year old college student when the A started (attended college with our oldest son!). Now, she's 24 and a physician's assistant but works at a tanning salon.

OW2 - escort


"Never, never, never give up." - Winston Churchill

Posts: 138 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Betrayed55
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Member # 32289
Default  Posted: 7:02 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Married businesswoman, re-found family member

Posts: 145 | Registered: May 2011 | From: New York
Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Main AP was a married man who was pretty much supported by his wife - he was in the National Guard when they met. He was home all day so it was real convenient for their affair - neither one of them had to work. He was also a swinger with a few pieces on the side. There were about 6 others on Ashley Madison that I don't know much about - one worked at the Pentagon. I'm still a little pissed that I didn't out every one of them that she was involved with.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3754 | Registered: Dec 2011
struggling16
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Member # 33202
Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A 25 year old single mother with a history of substance abuse and lying who couldn't hold a steady job because working interfered with her partying.

I prefer to think of the AP in her own words, "I'm a taker, not a giver" or as my WH referred to her, "user-loser".

[This message edited by struggling16 at 9:00 PM, September 9th (Monday)]


Posts: 702 | Registered: Aug 2011
PrincessPeach06
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Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First OW - grocery store asst manager

Second OW - nurse but lost her job due to prescription drug abuse and is a cashier now


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".


Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
brokengrandma52
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Member # 31705
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dental hygienist, dysfunctional human being. Gave him an electric toothbrush as a gift. Could not figure out why that stupid toothbrush bothered me...he said he bought it at Sam's. It whet in the trash when I knew where It came from. She was all wrapped up living with her aging mother...her best friend.... Someone else's husband fit way better into her life then a SG.


Me BS beautiful wonderful woman!!
Him FWS ex jackass
We are recovered.....almost!
Dday July 2010
Married 49 years...50 years Aug 2013

Posts: 115 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Fl part of the year
whatdoto
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Member # 28555
Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His first A was before he met me and that was with his brothers wife....ewww

Current A was co-worker - she's a glorified clerk. Divorced twice with a son who is a thief.


"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

Posts: 1187 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Texas
hopefullromantic
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Member # 16652
Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nurse/teacher


It's not really a fairy tale 'till the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain

Posts: 1736 | Registered: Oct 2007
huRtZ413
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH 's , ap was a engaged female marine now married what a lucky man that guy is



me_BW
him_WH


I'M ON THE FENCE



Posts: 278 | Registered: May 2013
Dagny07
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Member # 16928
Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW#1: Pudgy coffee-shop waitress. "She sat on my lap & wiggled; what was I supposed to do, push her off?"
OW#2: Middle-aged skinny divorcee.
OW#3: Old crush from high school, failed actress who lives with Sugar Daddy in NYC. Her philosophy: "What's a fuck between friends?"
OW#4: Community Theater barracuda, targets married men. Will be buried in a Y-shaped coffin.
OW#5: Graphic artist/amateur (mediocre) community theatre "actress". Had a crush on XWH and targeted him. According to her BH (now ex-H), she said she would never pass up a chance at "True Love".

All of the above knew me.


Me:BW Him: FWH E/A
M: 29 years, together 36 : both guilty of PAs 20+ years ago
CDay#1 Oct 06 (false); DDay#2 Oct 07 (truth from OW's BH)
R: Tenaciously optimistic

Posts: 829 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Midwest
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

the same guy she was having sex with when she was 12. he was 17.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2558 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She was a district manager for a major international retail company. She's been promoted since and does something in corporate.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6306 | Registered: Jan 2011
courageouscat
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Member # 34298
Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Newly minted licensed professional counselor. When she and WH reconnected, (she was his college GF), she was in the process of starting an online counseling and coaching service specifically targeted toward women in transition (career change, divorce, empty nest, etc.) Her web site is up and running and she has opened an office in her town.


ME - 50 something
WH - 50 something
Kids - 3 boys, Adult, Teen, Teen
Married - 26 years
Together - 29 years
EA 10/11 -12/11; 100% NC 1/18/11

Posts: 113 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Out in the big wide open
niaveone
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Member # 40317
Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MOW was a salesperson at a supply store WS had to frequent for work. His employer was her "account". One day she just gave WS her cell phone number "in case he needed anything off work hours" Guess he did.

WS is not the first and I *highly doubt* he is the last man she picked up at work. From what I'm told, she uses her job as a Gosh Darn dating service, since the industry she is in is extremely male oriented.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married: 16 years
2 children
2 DDays

Posts: 193 | Registered: Aug 2013
newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW worked part-time in a clothing store catered to gay men. Yes, my STBX was shopping there. He has admitted to struggling with his sexuality, but now pretends like that conversation never took place. OW claimed to be part owner of the store and earn $250k per year on her FB page. My attorney friend did a little digging and discovered none of that was true. She was just a part-time, low wage earning skank. Delusional much?


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 819 | Registered: Mar 2013
notquiteoverit
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Member # 32919
Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is a retail sales person who sells toilets and other bathroom fixtures.


Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11

Posts: 570 | Registered: Jul 2011
defyinggravity
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Member # 25552
Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MOW now Wifetress.

X's coworker in local Community Mental Health system.


Me-BS Him-WS
Married-35 years
3 adult children
DD1-1/08. EA. In (fake) MC. "Just friends."
DD2-1/09. PA. Same OW,13 years younger. His married coworker.
Divorced-1/25/11 They married 2/12.


Posts: 85 | Registered: Sep 2009
Ashland13
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Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guess I'm a little different in that I shut my ears to any reference to OW. I know of her physical appearance (big as a house with large, poofy 80's hair and my age) from a photo, but since she's a trigger, I don't want to know anything. I also don't want her to be important enough to me to find out.

Nearly Exh did inform me that she wouldn't be a stranger if I would let her be introduced.

Waaa???? This I would want, why?

Oh...and he "says" there is only one...

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 12:03 PM, September 9th (Monday)]


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


Posts: 2134 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Arnold01
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MOW with four kids who are school aged and still at home. Highly educated from a premier university. Likely not the picture of the cheating wife, but there you go.


D-Day: June 2013 discovered two-month EA/PA
NC established: August 2013
Reconciling

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