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User Topic: AP, who are they?
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was an Assistant <Adminsitrative title> in a college at a large university. My H was <Administrative title>, therefore her boss.

OW is now still an Assistant <Different Administrative Title>, but works in the Provost's office rather than a specific college.

FWH insists that they only got physical (a passionate kiss) the day he announced he was leaving Large University to take a job in another city. A month later, they had sex. In the intervening weeks, lots of kisses and gropes in their respective offices.

Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA

Posts: 397 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Divorced nurse, mother of 3 sons.

She is divorced because her husband cheated with prostitutes!

How can you go through that and do it to someone else??? Not her first time either. I think she is seeking revenge, trying to build up her destroyed self esteem by insinuating herself into other peoples marriages.

She also texted me to get over it! Evil!!!

Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced 8/5/14

Posts: 1337 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, my first H was with more than he could ever hope to count or keep track of; some were ONS skanks and I have no idea what their professions were, but the majority of them had prostitution as their profession.

He also had at least 2 EA/PAs. I actually don't know what the first one's profession was, if she had a job then. I do know she was religious and her denomination insisted that women wear skirts. So when I saw her, I think the thing I remember the most was the huge long denim skirt to cover her huge self.

And the other one? He ended up with her, married her and is still with her. I don't really know what she did for work when he first met her either, if anything. But she became a truck driver while they were dating, so she could drive too (really so she could keep an eye on him since she didn't trust him, I think!)

My current H was involved with a high school dropout trailer trash whore who worked in a local factory. She lost her job there soon after D-day. (I don't know why).

After that she worked in a grocery store and now a small bulk food store (at least that is where she was last I knew). Not that it matters about professions, but I have a doctorate degree and I'm a college professor. I know the OW could come from any walk of life, and are often have professional or prestigious positions, but the ones who have impacted me seemed to not have much on the ball.

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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's a Nurse

I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.

Posts: 5384 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was a married mother of 3 who was my BFF from College, introduced me to WH, was MOH at our wedding and I in hers, worked at the church during the first affair, and pretended to be a friend the whole sordid 7 years giving marriage advice and sending me books like Dr. Laura's The Care and Feeding of Husbands because "the book did so much to help my marraige". Yah the marriage that was so great that you decided to have a little on the side with my husband.

APs can be anyone. And WH wonders why I don't want to socialize anymore.

Me: BW - 46
Him: WH - 49
MOW: my BFF from college and good friend for 25 yrs
Married 14 years, 2 Tweens
DD: 5/20/13 2 year long EA/PAs (one 7 yrs ago and one this past year)
Status: day by day, in MC, working on R

Posts: 141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: roses303
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW1 was unknown
OW2 stripper
OW3 unknown

[This message edited by mysticpenguin at 5:08 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh,in my case OW was a really classy lady,.....never worked in her life,has 5 kids,all from different fathers, yea child support adds up,you know? Also she gets food stamps. So why work? Also why work I guess when she always finds a sugar daddy who is willing to support this poor single mother of 5,.......

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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW AKA "The Slut", is divorced (no children);
works in a decision-making position in child welfare, & has a part-time position as a fitness instructor

[This message edited by mchercheur at 6:32 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]

together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW #1 - stay-at-home mom/college student/in and out psycho ward patient/ alcoholic who attempted suicide. Now divorced alcoholic who spent nearly all last year in jail. But, SAWH says she gives amazing blowjobs.
OW2 - worked in the drafting department in construction company where SAWH was a foreman... much older than us. Last I heard relocated across the country to Arizona.
OW3 - Teacher's Aide at the school I unfortunately work at. At time of betrayal was in the same Sunday School that we attended. Lives on the other side of our small town.
OW4 - Worked in commercial insurance sales at a small local insurance company. Her hour lunch provided her enough of time to run home and invite my SAWH over. She was "his LUNCH". In fact in their one correspondence SAWH asked what's for lunch and she replied, "ME - on bed"
OW 5 - Not sure if she's a stay-at-home mom or works elsewhere. She was her daughter's community league assistant basketball coach, SAWH was the coach. When he began flirting through texting and sent her an indecent photo, she cut him off. SAWH pursued her so I still consider her an OW.

They all were and 3 of them still live in our small town. I hate living here sometimes... I never know when I'll run into them plus having to work with the one whore.

[This message edited by momoffive at 6:43 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]

BW 44, SAWH 45(sorry1)
M24 yrs
DD 23,16,13 DS 21, 19
Dday1-7/3/09 EA OW4
Dday2-9/1/09 PA OW4
Dday3 3/14/10 Farmville sexting, OW3
Dday4 3/13/11 Secret texting, would be OW5-she said no
Dday5 8/2/11 PA 10 years ago OW1, kissing 4 years ago OW2

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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A 23 yr old just graduated from university Engineer in Training. Lives at home with her tight knit parents and siblings. Still a virgin but had limited petting experiences in university. No serious boyfriends.

Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died

Posts: 247 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband had an affair with a girl 33 years younger than him who sold beer from a beer cart at a country club where my husband's friend played golf.

She actually was from another country and came to this country as a mail order bride to another much older man. She had divorced him after she became a US citizen and had gotten her high school diploma and her real estate license.

At the time she was having an affair with my husband, she was also having an affair with a doctor. She had been the real estate agent who sold the doctor and his wife their vacation condominium. My husband was aware of this at the time he started his affair with her.

She was younger than my husband's own daughter. I will never ever understand what got into my husband during those 8 months. These past 2 years have been the worst 2 years of my life since finding out!

Posts: 71 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: one of the southern states
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's a "Christian" preschool teacher. Those poor kids.

Me BW, Him WH
DD #1, caught 4/12/13
DD #2, tells me the whole truth, 5/21/13
DD #3, TT until 8/9/13 then full disclosure w/timeline
DD #4, 8/26/13, OW texts me more info, he tells me the whole truth
DD # 5, 9/11/13, he tells me the whole truth??

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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The LTA whore is a high school teacher who is married with two kids. They met via Adult Friend Finder where she blogs and puts up pix of her saggy boobs and fat ass.

BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Skanky nurse practitioner.

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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW1 - care provider in assisted living home
OW2 - security guard (subordinate)
OW3 - security guard (subordinate)

BS: me - 37
WH: him - 37
DD: 8
DD: 11 mos

Married over 9 years, together for 18.

DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).

In limbo.

Posts: 323 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Ontario Canada
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW #1&2 (ONS): no clue now, at the time we were all early 20s, my guess is that they were students

OW #3: owned a pet store, lost it and went I to egg farming

OW#4: designer of some type at the head office for my H's company (across the country)

OW#5: sells insurance, she was a customer of his (in more ways than one apparently!)

OW#6 (not sure if she counts but I'm counting her): pharmacist and his spin class instructor.

OMG, I've never written it all down. Makes me sick. I basically found out about all of them at the same time. Oh, and the years of "camming". :(

Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prostitute, house cleaner, (code word for drug hookups) and warrant avoider. Oh and the job she was best at...liar.

D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed

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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was a co-worker--divorced mother of three who only had custody of her youngest daughter. WH would hook up with her after I went to work at 11pm--with her 10 year old in a small apartment. Classy???

DDay 7/29/2010
Am hoping to reconcile!! Am I crazy or what?
If we all did the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves-Thomas Edison

Posts: 323 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Pa
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was an 18 year old waitress. Now she's a 22 year old waitress.

3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know."
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

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