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Lovedyoumore (original poster member #35593) posted at 10:00 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
My friend was telling me about her son's divorce and her DIL "dating" while they were married. She does not know about my H's A. She was shocked because her DIL was being coaxed and pursued by a member of a fairly well known Christian band. I was telling her that AP come from every walk of life and profession.
As a poll, what does the OP in your life do for a living? We will do WS later.
Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R
Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose
Lovedyoumore (original poster member #35593) posted at 10:01 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
The OP in our life is/was a divinity school grad mainline denomination minister. Usually youth minister.
Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R
Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose
musiclovingmom ( member #38207) posted at 10:08 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
OW1 - diner waitress (who claims to be a police officer)
OW2 - service representative for a car dealership
OW3 & 4 - idk, he found them on AFF
OW5 - preschool teacher persuing an elementary education degree
RightTrack ( member #36976) posted at 10:08 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
AP worked part-time, making coffee, answering phones and running errands for an accounting company. She wanted to be able to "devote time to her family" ha ha
Blobette ( member #36519) posted at 10:09 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Production manager, business school grad
BS (me): 51
WS: 52
Married: 27 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R
soveryweary ( member #32265) posted at 10:20 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Main OW - elementary school secretary, now works at a bank.
EA#1- extremely successful business owner ( who sent him pictures of her boobs and a graphic picture of herself on a vibrator)
EA#2- his old work secretary now unemployed 
[This message edited by soveryweary at 4:22 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]
Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 10:25 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Idk, there were about 50. Sometimes I envy those of you who know who the enemy was.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
SoAngryAndHurt ( member #40150) posted at 10:29 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Stay at home mom - mother of 3. Their family goes to church every Sunday together. Its lovely 
Me BW
Him WH
2 kids elementary school age
Married 12 years
05/20/13 I confront and TT begins
07/01/13 The whole truth. Admits to EA/PA
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 10:32 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
OW#1 unemployed
OW#2 paralegal turned hooker/porn actress
OW#3 school janitor
OW ETC strippers
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
quoththeraven1 ( member #35458) posted at 10:33 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
naivewife ( member #38375) posted at 10:36 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Essentially unemployed, but was a pharmacologist who was paid by her psychiatrist mother to be her "assistant." Assistant means lay in bed all day popping Cymbalta and have affairs and take advantage in any way possible of her mothers psyc patients.
[This message edited by naivewife at 4:37 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]
D-day #1 - 1/23/13
false R, then...
D-day #2 - 3/26/13
I will come for the benefit of the sick, remaining free of all intentional injustice, of all mischief and in particular of sexual relations with both female and male persons. - Hippocratic Oath
sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 10:37 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
She is an administrative assistant in a large pharmaceutical company (Not one of ours Iif you get my drift. And I just realised the irony that im anti-drug company lol)
At night she tends bar at a place on wh route home. I was told the bar is a skanky place with bad food and bad service. The owners/mgrs are said to be of questionable character. Everytime I have passed it it has had plenty (not a lot) of cars in its parking lot
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dameia ( member #36072) posted at 10:37 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
OW 1-16 - Whores in Thailand
OW #17 - CoWorker, M at the time although now D. Works in computer security, also ex-service member. She was feeling "insecure" after getting out of the military, obviously fucking my H was going to help with that.
Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12
Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.
OnAnIsland ( member #34319) posted at 10:43 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
MarriedOW- MBA wielding, international (tech and green sector specialty) business consultant. The international was key to staging serendipitous trips to places near us....
D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
letitout ( member #38288) posted at 10:44 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Prostitute 1,2,3?
Prostitute 4: a whole year of therapy she was a social worker.
Prostitute 5: A sous chef in a high class restaurant. She sure cooked my H ass for another year.
BW 57, WH 66, 19 yo twins
Married 28 years
2 years of $$$$$$ prostitutes.
Chefj9 ( member #38604) posted at 10:45 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
OW #1 Finance Manager at the company he worked for at the time.
OW #2 unemployed skank friend from HS
OW #3 Manager at a large food company over one of the beverage divisions.
ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 13
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere
standingonmarble ( member #31217) posted at 11:01 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Physical Therapist and assistant and a nurse.
All walks of life.
At one time he was a man standing on marbles. Now I am a woman standing on marble.....
We are done fighting with each other and decide to fight FOR each other.
jasonguitarboy ( member #22939) posted at 11:03 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
OM #1- guy from her group of friends.
OM #2- My coworker, close friend and spiritual mentor.
OM #3- Former coworker of mine, I got her a job at my shop and then I found a better job. He wanted her to "go for a drive" she said no a couple times then was "curious" enough to go one day. Thus began her one year affair with a man she couldn't even talk to due to language barior.
Exactly what does it take to learn boundaries? Cuz destroying my world obviously wasn't enough.
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger... right?
Me-BS 35
Her-WS 32 (surviving1979)
Zayda1 ( member #35387) posted at 11:04 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
The AP is a mother of 4 and an elementary school teacher.
She also used to teach the marriage courses at her church.
Married 10 years, together for 12 years
2 children (9 years & 6 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)
shatteredheart7 ( member #39734) posted at 11:09 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Skanky whore is a twice divorced single mother of 3 adult kids and 1 young daughter. Her youngest was conceived on the day her last divorce became final, it was how she and her ex celebrated being divorced. 
She works from home. Something to do with accounting and her mom got her the job is all I know.It obviously left her with lots of time to devote to my H. She also lives in a house owned by her mother, and drives a car that is about to fall apart. Gotta love when the AP is looking for someone to make their life easier financially.
Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!
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