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User Topic: Books on mindfulness?
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've just started working with my IC on mindfulness. Fairly specifically for now on being present in the moment. It's intriguing and, even with the little work I've been doing so far, helpful in coping with the major stressors in my life.

IC has suggested some of the works of Jon Kabat-Zinn for reference. I've got those in my queue.

Anyone have experience with this and have any books you would recommend I either read or avoid?

Thanks in advance.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pema Chodron's "When things fall apart" is helpful for me. She has another one that I haven't started yet... I will get you the title when I get home later today.


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm interested in hearing more about this - great post!


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/pema/

I agree 100% with jrazz. In fact any of Pema's books at all would be perfect.



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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Minfulness Solution by Ronald D Siegel.

Also there are some great apps that help with practicing mindfulness.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you! Adding these to my reading queue.


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There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IC has suggested some of the works of Jon Kabat-Zinn for reference.

I agree with your IC and would definitely start there.

As others have suggested, the Pema Chodron books are excellent; especially When Things Fall Apart


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Started with "When Things Fall Apart." Big thumbs up so far.

Thanks for all the recommendations.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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LadyYoga
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can also listen to free Pema Chodron Podcasts. I found them, and all of buddhism and mindfulness extremely helpful.


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HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here is a short youtube video with Pema Chödrön describing why she became a Buddhist:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4slnjvGjP4

Basically, she became a Buddhist because she hated her husband after he cheated on her and left her for the OW.

My wife has read many of Pema's books and has even attended one of her weekend retreats. It has really helped her become a happier person.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 12:19 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, momof3 and Harden.


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There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Deep and Simple. By BO Lozoff

Great book but out of print. You can find cheap used copies around


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fabulous! Gives me a reason to haunt my favorite used book stores.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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Default  Posted: 6:43 AM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Miracle of Mindfulness, by Thich Nhat Hanh, is one I keep coming back to.

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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^ i just found "Peace is Every Step" by Thich Nhat Hanh on my bookshelf. Its been years since I read it but have fond memories. Time to revisit it I think.


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better. Reconciled from the A's but still working hard for a better tomorrow.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So many posts already, but of course I had to respond!

I really liked "Search Inside Yourself" by a Google executive.

Also, there is a CD lecture series about practicing mindfulness -- your library may get them or may be able to use inter-library loan to get them: http://www.thegreatcourses.com/tgc/courses/course_detail.aspx?cid=1933

Yoga also helps, at least it did for me!


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