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User Topic: Sexually Transmitted Diseases Question
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WW's A was 15 years ago. She had plenty of unprotected sex with this guy over the course of a year. Since then, she has had 2 more kids. Can an STD and/or AIDS hide for that many years and wouldn't it be caught during all of the pregnancy tests, blood work, etc?

Sorry. I'm well educated, but this is one area I've never paid attention since I thought I was living a monogamous life. I have given blood a 1/2 dozen times and no one has called me from Red Cross.

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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can an STD and/or AIDS hide for that many years and wouldn't it be caught during all of the pregnancy tests, blood work, etc?

Most states test for HIV & most STDs as part of routine prenatal care. Some STDs, such as herpes & HPV can "hide" & go undetected,if they are not specifically tested for.

[This message edited by mchercheur at 3:41 PM, September 6th (Friday)]

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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get tested. It's worth the mind-relief.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I carry HPV now thanks to WW and OM. O what a lovely gift!

It just amazes me how common unprotected sex is among people having affairs. They somehow *trust* each other when they say they are not having sex outside of their own M. And some deny even having sex in their M. How do they know their own spouse is not cheating on them? And seriously HOW to they trust each other? Hello. They both are lying cheaters. Yet they believe they are telling each other the truth? God the stupidity of it boggles the mind.

Sorry for the thread jack.

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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HPV can lurk for a long time and is often asymptomatic. Herpes also can be asymptomatic and is impossible to test for unless warts are present. Herpes can also present non-traditionally, sometimes mimicking a UTI on and off, especially during times of stress or illness.

Not a doctor. :) just what I've learned in college and at work!

Eta: I meant herpes can be asymptomatic for a long time. Sorry. Long day!

[This message edited by mysticpenguin at 5:23 PM, September 6th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DD for me was 4 yrs ago. I've been afraid to get tested, it was always in the back of my mind. I finally went to Dr last month and asked to be tested for everything. I can't tell how much better I feel. But, yea the Dr told me there's really no test for herpes unless you are broken out with them, which you would pretty much know at that point. Go get tested, for peace of mind.
Been with him over half my life
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Actually there are a couple of blood tests for herpes.

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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are blood test for herpes, and it's not a standard prenatal test unless asked for. She can have herpes and not know it, 90% of women who have it don't know because they can have internal outbreaks that go unnoticed. Most men who have it know because obviously, it's on the outside. A large portion of the population will test positive without ever having a known outbreak though, simply because their bodies fight it off. In order to know if a positive blood test is oral or genital herpes, a second test has to be run and it's very expensive. Insurance doesn't always cover it unless its medically necessary.

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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One thing for you to be VERY aware of is HPV. HPV is something that men can't be tested for at all, and the test is a bit invasive for women so many Dr.'s still don't test for it except in a routine pap smear.

What will HPV look like for men? It causes oral and throat cancer. I know a guy who's dentist actually found his HPV and sent him to the ear nose and throat Dr. for further checking. Any changes you see in your mouth or throat need to be taken seriously.

HPV can also affect men in the genitals, but it is far less common and the few that I've heard about are far nastier than something like Herpes.

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