Topic: 1825 days
Member # 33338
| Posted: 5:23 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Tomorrow, when I wake up, it will be 5 years of sobriety for me. So today is 1,825 days.
It took me 12 years of in-and-out, half-assed efforts (court ordered and/or state board-ordered) to manage to put together a year. 2 outpatient rehab programs failed. 7 different sponsors, each chosen for how dysfunctional and/or unavailable they seemed. 12 years of lies, half measures, and doing everything I could to avoid actually getting sober. When I think of all the energy I expended trying to avoid the work of sobriety, it truly makes me sad and/or bemused.
5 years ago, I was given one last opportunity to recover. I was sent to a tiny little treatment center in the mountains with some women who were tough as nails but kind and good as gold. I was loved, but taught discipline. I was given the tools to make sense of my life and to move on without drugs or alcohol as my crutches.
I am so very grateful tonight. To those of you who are in the program, thanks for my sobriety.
Me, Madhatter BW/fWW/fOW, 46
Him, fWH/BH, 39 (JMSSC)
married 16 years. In R. We are making it.
Posts: 2200 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Member # 31528
| Posted: 5:26 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
That's awesome! Congrats!
There are still good times to be had.
Were together 7+yrs, Ended R.
Posts: 26487 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 31722
| Posted: 5:49 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
***standing up, clapping*** for you HFSSC!
Congrats! You deserve to be so proud of yourself.
Posts: 1020 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Member # 26970
| Posted: 5:52 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
..that is truly a milestone to be proud of, for sure.
..BIG CONGRATULATIONS sent to you.
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 41 yrs (together 46)
18 yr LTA with bf
Posts: 3692 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 16024
| Posted: 6:09 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
You're not alone.
Posts: 31360 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 209
| Posted: 6:39 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Two boys: 16 and 13
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
Posts: 25486 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Member # 34262
| Posted: 6:43 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Me: BS 44
Her: fWS 47 (same sex partner)
Together: 17 now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish
Posts: 1441 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Member # 6010
| Posted: 6:56 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Congrats. That's a long hard road, but so worth it.
My Blog: http://allofthewaystohell.com/
Posts: 4164 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: eastern PA
Member # 26531
| Posted: 7:09 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Congrats!!! Way to Go!!
Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Posts: 23116 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 20150
| Posted: 7:15 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Be. Here. Now.
Posts: 16041 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 27035
| Posted: 7:20 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
That is truly amazing - congrats to you!
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."
Posts: 4046 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 33247
| Posted: 7:24 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
You are AWESOME!! Congratulations.
Dday: June 2011
Working on R
The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”
― Ernest Hemingway
Posts: 857 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 25560
| Posted: 7:28 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Bless you. As I sit here worrying about my DS I hope and pray that someday he will be able to say this. Amazing accomplishment., amazing work. Good for you!
“Lethargy can prove fatal for life. ”
Posts: 2314 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Member # 18449
| Posted: 7:35 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Posts: 10597 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: North Carolina
Member # 39665
| Posted: 7:47 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Stellar! And keep coming back.
~2 year A. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13. Me: WH, 49. BW, 48. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling. “The self is not something one finds, it is something one creates." Thomas Szasz
Posts: 298 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
Member # 15300
| Posted: 8:22 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Congratulations. When I read your story, I had hope for the our members who are suffering with their children's addictions.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 6546 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Member # 27196
| Posted: 9:14 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Don't know how I missed this!
Good for you HFSSC! So proud of you.
And Lynnm, thanks for that.
me BS female 55/him WS 58
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Posts: 6588 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Member # 12041
| Posted: 9:19 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Nothing beats authenticity, being present, and LIVING.
“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin
Posts: 40855 | Registered: Sep 2006
Member # 17460
| Posted: 9:20 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Good for you!
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 30 - Yikes!
Posts: 20548 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Member # 40076
| Posted: 1:23 PM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
So inspirational, congrats!
me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
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