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User Topic: Watched my wedding tape
click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why the heck would I want to do that you might ask?

Well, Sunday was a day that I went through my father's things - to look for a document my uncle had asked me to look for. My mom said "don't do it" and tell him you couldn't find it. I said no, I will be fine.

But of course moms are usually right.

I cried for a good part of the day. Anyway, in the process I found my wedding tape that my Dad had a copy of. I had been looking for tapes that would have my father in them and here was one right in my hands....

I debated on whether or not watch it and decided to go for it. I did get to see my father and hear a little bit of his voice, not much though and that was disappointing.

What I noticed was that I cried more at seeing my father and had very few feelings of seeing my ex-h. Yes, I was in awe of how young I looked and how it was the promise a "new chapter" in my life. I saw how secure I looked and remember how it felt. I saw how skinny I once was.

I hadn't watched that tape since 1995 - the year I got married.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((clicky)))


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16416 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
persevere
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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That would be tough for any of us. ((Hugs)) :


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4374 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
gma56
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I knew I was going to be OK when I went though all the wedding pictures and saved items, dress included, I was OK.
I too have a few special people in the pictures that have since past. Those are the ones I kept.
Hugs Click4it. I've lost both of my parents years ago but I grab and hold the memories dearly.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20323 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
click4it
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Default  Posted: 1:29 AM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jrazz, preserve and gma ty for the hugs.

gma i'm so sorry... (((((hugs back)))))


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
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