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User Topic: WH Committed Suicide
completeshock
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((DaysOfMyLife&Kids))

No words, but you are in my thoughts and prayers.


Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.

Posts: 1735 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: East Coast
peridot
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((DaysOfMyLife)))

I am so sorry.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4703 | Registered: Feb 2008
slipperyslope321
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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DOML. I'm so sorry, sending you and your children prayers and strength.


Me: BS
HIM: WH
DD1 1/11 fb chats
DD 4/11 txt msgs
DD 5/11 hidden accounts for underground EA. Busted it wide open.
DD2 8/2012, new OW
Divorcing

Posts: 126 | Registered: Aug 2011
sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So so very sorry. I too have said I wished my STBXH was dead, but no one really means that.

This is not your fault, and it is not fair and you and your family do not deserve this. This was about someone very broken and also very selfish to do this to the kids. You couldn't have done anything for him, no one could fix him or prevent it. It was him, and his actions.

A neighbor of mine had this happen. I don't know her that well, but she is a friend of a friend. She divorced her husband, I think he was bi-polar and she had no choice after lots of hard years. She has two daughters, they were middle school/Jr high age at the time. It was awful for them and everyone, but they got into counseling and they are okay now. One is in high school, doing jsut great, and her sister is in college and they survived it- still go to counseling, but they are okay and you and your kids will be okay.

Again, I am so so sorry.


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
ExposedNiblet
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry DOMYL. Please accept my condolences.


Divorced
Me ($39.95 plus S & H)
DS1(17), DS2(15)

Enjoying this chapter in my life.
Learning that being alone does not mean being lonely.
Discovering that where I've been is not as important as where I'm going.


Posts: 355 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Right Here, Canada
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1562 | Registered: Aug 2010
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have any words of advice. I just wanted to reply to provide hugs to you and your family.

(((DaysOfMyLife and kids)))

Sending you strength.


"I would rather take a punch than not give you a shot. I'd rather find out who you are than who you're not."

Posts: 6282 | Registered: Dec 2010
deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So very sorry for you and your children.

(((Hugs)))


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


Posts: 3215 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
cayc
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I was a sophomore in college, I found out my high school boyfriend killed himself. I had seen him over Christmas break but hadn't acknowledged him. I was super sick, felt gross and crappy and just ... well there's no excuse really except it was at a store and I just wanted to get out, go home and go back to bed.

It was the summer after that he did it. I felt guilty for the longest time. That I hadn't reached out. That I had ignored him. That I hadn't stayed in contact.

It took me a long time to realize that none of that mattered. He had always had a tough time mentally.

People say suicide is selfish because of all the hurt left behind. I guess. But my old boyfriend. He suffered so. And while I think of him from time to time, I also know the demons in his head are quiet, dead and gone with him. A strange bit of comfort, but there it is.

I'm glad you are there for your children. Your constancy and consistency will help them through this. I hope you too have someone to lean on to help you process all of this.

(((daysofmylife)))


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, so sorry Days. For you and you kids.

((((((((HUGS))))))) to you all.


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

Posts: 999 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Kailua-Kona, HI
Girlietoo
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't personally subscribe to the notion that suicidal people are selfish but rather very, very ill.

I realize your former husband did something that hurt you deeply. I suspect that perhaps his behaviour was a resulted of deeper issues that culminated in his suicide. I hope you know that you didn't cause this and there was probably nothing you could have done to change the outcome.

I am sending healing thoughts to you and yours.


Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died

Posts: 236 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss.

Hugs
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4860 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry. (((DaysOfMyLife)))


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9415 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. I'm so sorry (((DaysOfMyLife & family))).

Posts: 11417 | Registered: Mar 2008
persevere
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh DOML I am so very sorry. Strength and love to you and your children - (((HUGS)))


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4380 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very sorry for all of you.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


Posts: 2134 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, no. I'm so sorry. Love and prayers for all of you.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8344 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
jjsr
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My thoughts are with you and your kids


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1593 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
HeavyE
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My deepest sympathy to you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.


You can't change the wind, but you can adjust your sails.

Me Tarzan
Her Jane

Reconciled
D-Day 4/14/08


Posts: 9561 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Birthplace of America's Music
njgal480
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry.
Sending you and your children my condolences.


Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.


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