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User Topic: Have you ran into the ow/om ex
SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What do you do when you do,

How long ago was it?

I was in shock

if your kids are there doesn't even know about this affair. and they start talking to them about it saying how bad their dad is and that If I'm with him I shouldn't be and that he wants to kill him and asked my oldest son if he was still in jail and of course my son says no Im not defending my husband because he should of never done any of this to me but the guy should of never said this in front of my kids


Posts: 170 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
freelancer
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

5 months post DD, I was running a half marathon when I saw OW#2. I actually ended up passing her. I told my friend I was running with (she knew what was going on) that it was Shrek. She actually started having an inner conversation that she later told me about, about how I had her keys and if I got arrested for taking Shrek out, how would she get home?

Shrek had no idea who I was, WH had never shown her a picture of me. And as it turns out, for whatever reason she never finished the race.


Me: BS, 34
Him: WH, 34
2 beautiful babies, 6 and 2
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013

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kourt090
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Right after Thanksgiving last year. I was 8 mo. pregnant with DS, we were in the store and I heard someone behind me say WH's name. I turned around and SURPRISE!!! I was shocked that she had the nerve to not only say "hi" to WH but that she had to the nerve to say "hi" to him IN FRONT OF ME! WH looked like he got kicked in the gut . . . his face went white, he slouched and looked like he wanted to throw up. I was just dumbfounded and told her it would probably be in her best interest to keep walking. She loitered with her BF around the aisle we were on for a few minutes and then we walked off. I was SO mad! After I had a few minutes to process what happened, I wanted to walk back and confront her right there in the store but I couldn't find her. Dumb bitch.


Kourt090

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Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think this is one of the reasons I believe honesty is the best policy, even with kids. The OP's ex had no business speaking in front of them. Any person with a conscience would think twice about trying to hurt innocent people. The problem is that you really don't know who out there has a conscience and who doesn't.

My husband had two affairs which means there are at least two other people who know about his bad behavior and have the potential to try to hurt our family with it. So my children know everything and they also know how hard my husband has worked to overcome his bad behavior. They understand that, as a human, their father isn't perfect and that his ultimate goal is becoming a better husband and father than he was before. Because of this, there is no one who has anything to use against him.

All that said, even if your kids know everything, this must have still been a terrible situation to be in for all of you. I'm sorry that the OP's ex didn't direct his anger where it belonged, on the cheaters. It sounds like he was trying to hurt your husband through his family. He should be ashamed but he probably isn't.


Me: BS
Him: FWS
3 kids

DD#1: 3/18/2003
DD#2: 9/28/2010 with a follow up on 1/28/2011 where he decided to come clean about the EA actually being a PA.

The OW could have been anybody and both turned out to be nobody special.


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SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This shouldn't of even involved the children though none of them were here when this happened shoot they werent even thought of he didn't even know that my husband and I were together the just asked my son do you know gave the name he said what's the last name and the guy gave our last name and my son says yeah that's my dad and the guy started bashing my husband in front of my kids he might be a loser as a husband but he loves his kids

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SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's funny you could say here is bail money and the keys come get me :-)

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw her at Walmart one time. I stared her down, and she left crying.

Tough shit, asshole.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At least yours cried mine was staring me down I'm very conservative around my kids but if I was alone with them I'd jump them for the simple fact I know it takes two to tango but she knew he was married and I'm still angered over this she knows she's a whore

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SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tearsoflove your right the kids should know but not that way as their parents we should of told them not him and no he did it because he his a crack head I know this for a fact because he mentioned my ex nieghbor down the street which was friends with my uncle in law and he got evicted for being a crack head or coke head could of done both heck who knows he could of done all the drugs there is known to man but anyone aquatinted with him either did crack or coke needless to say my uncle in law was among them which he has passed now he's in heaven living it up with his dad and mom

Posts: 170 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe he did it to hurt the kids. And no remorse what's so ever but when he was going for a divorce he asked my husband to admit to the judge that she cheated. My husband wouldn't do it he didn't want nothing to do with the situation

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