Topic: Infidelity fatigue, also known as shut up, Brain.
Member # 39169
| Posted: 3:21 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
As we all know the infidelity is perpetually on the mind of the betrayed (at least for some amount of time, for me I'm 4+ months out). Sometimes I feel myself start to tune it out. It must be a survival thing. I become so exhausted by it that I find myself almost pretending it didn't happen, just to get a break from the constant hurt and anger. Maybe this is tied to the roller coaster, and the ups happen when we can tune it out briefly. I am desperate to feel normal and so so ready for the plain of lethal flatness to hit.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Love is a Verb.
Posts: 384 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 34809
| Posted: 4:09 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
I just wanted you to know that you've been heard.
DDay #1 03/07/2011
2 DS 11, 7
2 DD 10,5
Posts: 120 | Registered: Feb 2012
Member # 30369
| Posted: 4:39 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
It's definitely okay to take mental breaks whenever you can. That's one of the reasons I suggest physical activity so often. Not only does it release toxins from your body, but it also distracts your mind temporarily.
This roller coaster is a long ride, but the hills and valleys tend to spread out and get less drastic with time. I'm almost three years out and still think about the A very frequently, but it doesn't hurt nearly as much these days.
This stuff does get easier to handle with time. Hang in there.
BH/WBF - 40
FWW/BGF (Amerasia) - 43
DS - 9
Posts: 3041 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 39652
| Posted: 4:53 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
I completely understand. I'm exhausted all the time. Not from activity, but I think it's from the pain. Two hours seem to be my limit. Then I need a mental break, to be alone, away from the world.
I wish there was an easy answer. I think it takes time, and the feeling that we know what direction we are heading in.
Hang in there...
Me: BGF (46), on the fence
Him: WBF (much younger than me), not sure he's the man he thinks he is.
I loved you for who I thought you were. Since he doesn't exist, who the hell am I'm sleeping with?
Posts: 239 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 40306
| Posted: 9:10 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
Just wanted you to know I seem to be experiencing the same thing.
It's so exhausting isnt it?
Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Perpetual limbo...no R..no LS...no D
3 kids: 15,17,19
Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2013
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