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User Topic: Infidelity fatigue, also known as shut up, Brain.
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As we all know the infidelity is perpetually on the mind of the betrayed (at least for some amount of time, for me I'm 4+ months out). Sometimes I feel myself start to tune it out. It must be a survival thing. I become so exhausted by it that I find myself almost pretending it didn't happen, just to get a break from the constant hurt and anger. Maybe this is tied to the roller coaster, and the ups happen when we can tune it out briefly. I am desperate to feel normal and so so ready for the plain of lethal flatness to hit.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.


Posts: 535 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
wheelsup
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((hugs))))))

I just wanted you to know that you've been heard.


wheelsup

DDay #1 03/07/2011
DDay#2 04/08/2011
Four Children
2 DS 13, 8
2 DD 11,6

In Recovery


Posts: 123 | Registered: Feb 2012
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's definitely okay to take mental breaks whenever you can. That's one of the reasons I suggest physical activity so often. Not only does it release toxins from your body, but it also distracts your mind temporarily.

This roller coaster is a long ride, but the hills and valleys tend to spread out and get less drastic with time. I'm almost three years out and still think about the A very frequently, but it doesn't hurt nearly as much these days.

This stuff does get easier to handle with time. Hang in there.


"The hero of my tale, whom I love with all the power of my soul, whom I have tried to portray in all his beauty, who has been, is, and will be beautiful, is Truth." - Leo Tolstoy

Posts: 4478 | Registered: Dec 2010
TrulySad
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I completely understand. I'm exhausted all the time. Not from activity, but I think it's from the pain. Two hours seem to be my limit. Then I need a mental break, to be alone, away from the world.

I wish there was an easy answer. I think it takes time, and the feeling that we know what direction we are heading in.

Hang in there...


Me: WGF
Him: WBF
Together two years DD Feb. 2013
I think we are R??? Time will tell

Posts: 358 | Registered: Jun 2013
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Hugs)))

Just wanted you to know I seem to be experiencing the same thing.

It's so exhausting isnt it?


Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Heading for Divorce
3 kids: 15,17,19

Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.


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