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User Topic: she wanted his baby
eachdayisvictory
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess I just want to vent here. This summer has been managing the new information that the OW was asking my WH to impregnate her for several months just before the end of the A. She said that she just wanted a piece of him to keep forever no matter what happened between them. She has two step sons, an adult son from an earlier relationship, and a daughter who is half siblings with her stepsons and the child of her husband at the time. She left her husband for mine after about 2 months of their 2 and a bit year long affair. She also got a tattoo for my husband that is a symbol for his last name and his irish heritage. Laughably, that is also MY last name and My heritage as well as our children's, so she has a tattoo representing my entire family on her wrist.

Is this shit over-the-top? Does it mean something about the affair? I am wondering if it is more than most people have seen, if it's too much for me to work through.

Me: 33 BW
WH: 34
Dday: Feb 11, 2013
Dday #2: May 6, 2013
together 15 years, married 9, affair was 2 years 3 months - during the conception and birth of our second son.


me, BW: 34
FWH: 35
Dday: Feb 2013
LTA for 2+years
children: 2 boys age 3 and 6
Reconciling

Posts: 380 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nova Scotia, Canada
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nope. Not over the top at all.

The skank and my wxh were actively "trying " to get pregnant because I took away his chance to be a father by getting my tubes tied.

He neglected to tell her that he was unable to have kids. He was so consumed by his hatred for me that he " forgot" that piece of information.

They are both a couple of nut balls.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7697 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
eachdayisvictory
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

but are the two nutballs any different? Are you two working to reconcile, or not?


me, BW: 34
FWH: 35
Dday: Feb 2013
LTA for 2+years
children: 2 boys age 3 and 6
Reconciling

Posts: 380 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nova Scotia, Canada
emotionalgirl
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Each day....can we all say " potential stalker". Holy heck you may end up needling a restraining order for this crazy bitch

Both of you ladies really got landed with the nut job OW types...wow


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

Posts: 373 | Registered: Aug 2013
PrincessPeach06
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the only thing it means is she is nutso!

My H's A was brief - a couple weeks of talking/flirting and a ONS and she was head over heels in love! Talked about how they had a "spiritual" connection and she would drop anything and everything to be with him. Then she would get drunk and bash the shit out of him only to apologize and tell him how much she loved him and the cycle would repeat. Given more time I am afraid what she would have done!!! Thankfully we are far enough away to be able to completely avoid her.


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".


Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW and OW junior have named animals after Nearly ExH and egg him on with his judgment of me. They stole my pictures and took me out...The lying he does doesn't seem to phase them because they keep taking him back.

She tried to tell me how awful our M was and how lurrvvvyyyy they are...

So what I can deduce is that it seems to have become a contest with me that she made and I mention it because maybe it's like that with you on the end of OW there? It was a cat-clawing type of thing that I would not do back...though I thanked her for the possiblity of STD's and helping to take our daughter's father away, rather than encourage him home.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2239 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The OW in my case said the same things about having FWH's baby... but only AFTER she had already gotten pregnant and surprised him with the news (he had already broken off the A, and was NC for months).

While the tattoo is craziness, be very glad that she did NOT get pregnant. This obsessive thinking about the AP is the biggest precursor to OCs, in my opinion.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


Posts: 2285 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Each day- no, we are not reconciling. I divorced him 5 years ago. The OW nutball went back to her ex husband and remarried him.

The gross part of it all is that her husband could be my wxh's younger brother, because they look so much alike, except that her husband has a soul.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7697 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband's LTA wanted to have his baby, but he'd already had a vasectomy by that point. (He hadn't with AP#1, dumb ass).

It hurt me to the core to know this. She said they'd make beautiful babies together. She already had 3 children (different fathers for all) and we have 5 children. I'm honestly beyond grateful he'd had a vasectomy because I'm POSITIVE she would have gotten pregnant on purpose.

It horrifies me.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW had 2 tattoos. One that had SAWH's initial in the stem of a flower and another on her wrist that was supposedly his nickname for her. never saw the one in her wrist since she did that the day before dday#1 and her never saw her again.

What kind of crazy permanently marks themselves for someone that's married? Thank god OW had a hysterectomy and H has had a vasectomy. I have no doubt she would have attempted to get pregnant to stay permanently attached.

Took months to get this bunny boiler gone.


ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 472 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
struggling16
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The whole baby thing is absolutely ridiculous.

My WH's AP talked about having a baby with my WH. HE HAS A VASECTOMY but that didn't stop her cockamamie fantasy life; she suggested that my step-son donate sperm to impregnate her. Later she changed her mind because she suddenly realized that my WH's first wife and the mother of my step-son would be the grandmother of this fantasy baby. Oops. She also suggested introducing me as a potential partner for her father after the phantom D.

Oh yeah, my WH was 70 and the AP was 25 (with a young child) at the time of the A. Wouldn't that have been a lovely family?

These people are nuts.

[This message edited by struggling16 at 9:27 AM, September 1st (Sunday)]


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