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User Topic: I did ok I think? (tmi)
anemie
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We just had our baby 6 weeks ago and a little backround info the last baby we had (14 months ago)my WH slept with one of his employees and was having an EA with another. He has since left the job and we are working hard to get through things. We had our whole hysterical bonding(hence this baby) and sex slowed down towards the end of the pregnancy. Dday was in October, I had found out the date of the PA was less than one month after the last baby was born, which was also the same we we had sex for the first time postpartum. I was super afraid I would trigger bad today when we decided to have sex. I haven't felt anything physical towards him, but I wanted to try anyway, and I am happy to say I didn't trigger during like I used to. But he said "it was worth the wait" right after and my mind immediately started thinking, "well you certainly couldn't wait last time". I didn't say anything because I just didn't want to talk, but he noticed that I was upset and asked. So I told him and he got a little upset and said he isn't that person anymore. I believe him, I believe he is working hard towards change, but sometimes a stupid trigger like that makes me want to hit him.
So then after he left for work tonight I FB stalked OW1 & OW2. I haven't done that in months, it didn't bother me as much as it used to but it makes me hate myself that I went and looked at their photos. It doesn't help me any to do that.
Sorry for the long rant, just needed to get it out tonight!


D-Day October 18th, 2012 D-Day2 October 5th 2013
4 kids 12,11,7, 1 and one sweet little newborn

Posts: 112 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: MA
unfound
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations on the new little one ! Boy do you have your hands full!

It's good (in a weird way) that looking at ow's facebook didn't have the effect it used to on you. Also good that you recognize that it's not helping you. You're getting there .


ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

Posts: 14844 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
ladies_first
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I FB stalked OW1 & OW2.

Block them!

Then get busy posting happy family posts about that beautiful 6-week-old bundle of joy.


"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway

Posts: 2143 | Registered: Jun 2009
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"it was worth the wait"
I understand completely. My FWH, will often say things like, "you're the only one for me", and I want to strangle him. But I know that he really means well, he is just a lil stupid about not thoroughly thinking thru what he is about to say and the implications of how it might affect me.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
dontknowwhyme
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes men say some dumb shit without thinking far enough ahead to recognize that it could have been hurtful to you. It seems he is trying, and doing what you need to R. Like others have said, please try not to focus on OW. You have some amazing things going on right not that deserve your time. The OW do not deserve your time.


BS 38
FWW 37 (fireandice)
Married 13 Years - Together 20
D-Day1:Jan 08 (EA OM#1)
D-Day2:8-15-08 (EA/PA OM#2)
DS12, DS9
D-Day3:11-3-10
Divorced 1-27-11
Remember, you don't drown from being thrown in the water. You drown from staying in it.

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