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User Topic: WH's "contract"
fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A simple "no thanks"


Divorced and beginning my new life.


2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^love it. No thanks POS. you get LESS IC and less help at the house and he gets to go to Vegas and free pass on "business" email? He seriously underestimates what you are worth.

Don't make that mistake for yourself.

Sanity comes with knowing your own worth and standing for it. Best wishes ❤


Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

Posts: 505 | Registered: Jan 2013
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe you can reply with a contract of your own?

Here’s a couple of suggestions to start with:

1. You will build a time machine and return us to date and time that I determine.

2. You will have a Cranium-Rectum Inversion reversal procedure post haste.


Sorry he is being such a manipulative and entitled POS. That 'contract' is utter BS


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
justabrokendream
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a douche.... Make a copy of the letter, wipe your ass with it, then give it back to him.

Posts: 306 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: CA
numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tonight I'm going to tell him that I can't be M to him anymore and that he needs to move out. Wish me luck!


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck ((((n&n))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2625 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sending luck and strength to you n&n.

((((huge hugs)))


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
realitybites
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah I would say you "thought about it" and then hand him his copy back with all lines crossed out and initialed (like a contract)write DENIED in red ink at the top and tell him to get the fuck out.

Sheesh. What an ass.

I wish you good luck tonight. Do what you want and don't give a flying crap about what he wants. Watch him start to squirm when you don't give in.

[This message edited by realitybites at 12:50 PM, August 30th (Friday)]


Posts: 5684 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: florida
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You will refrain from giving me the third degree about cash spending, travel, email correspondence and any alleged misconduct.

Let me understand: You are allowed to have his passwords and sew his e-mails, but how ask him any questions about it? Ok.....

You will reduce your therapy to 2 sessions per week for September and October and to one session per week beginning in November.

Wait, wait, wait. He is dictating how much you are allowed to see your personal counselor? Why would this be any of his business???

I will be permitted to: (1) travel to ______ for 3 days in September to meet with (6 guys names) at ____'s home and (2) travel to Las Vegas in October to meet with (5 guys, including all the guys from the "cheating" Vegas trip).

I almost wet myself laughing at this one.

I think this one is what his contract is really all about. "Look, I will do this and this and this for you, but I want to go on these trips without you getting mad."

He cheated on a trip to vegas with those same 5 guys. What in his right mind makes him think you would be comfortable with him going to the same place, with the same guys ever again? Sounds like putting himself in the same situation.

Also, you can't ask him about the travel. How convenient.

*rolls eyes*

I don't think I would even respond.

Let's look at his part:

1. In order to rebuild trust, I will commit to a monthly polygraph test for the next 6 months. If these tests are positive, meaning "no deception," tests will be every 2 months for an additional 1 year. If "no deception" in these tests, testing will end at the end of that year (approximately the end of 2014).

What happens after that? He will be able to go right back to where he was before.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
wifehad5
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Red  Posted: 5:08 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

numbandnauseous,

Please don't post the same post in multiple forums.

Everyone, please see this thread to continue to offer your support.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=506432


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


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