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User Topic: Anyone else here a total worrywart?
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And how do you make yourself stop!?!?

I had a mole removed, and when I went to have the stitches taken out, the derm told me that a larger section needed to be removed and then referred me to a plastic surgeon. She said that the mole was atypical and could turn into cancer if left there.

Not a big deal, right?

Yeah, except they sent me home with the pathology report to give to the plastic surgeon, and after reading all of the medical jargon, now I'm convinced that she was too scared to tell me that something was terribly wrong. And I googled it, of course... some sites put my mind at ease, others made me worry more.

I have an appointment with the plastic surgeon in a month. I called the derm to see if that was too long to wait, and the nurse said it was totally fine. So, there's nothing else I can do. If there is something bad there, I can't excise it myself. I also can't worry it away or do anything else (other than be even more judicious with sunscreen and stop with the googling) to improve the situation.

Ugh. I wish I could be more laid-back.

It helped to put this out there. Thanks for reading.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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asurvivor
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you are a worrywart, do not google any health related ailment. An in grown toenail = death.

But since you have, I suggest a martini


I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.



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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know. I did the same thing when I needed a suspicious spot in my breast biopsied. It completely freaked me out, and I spent three days barely able to eat. Fortunately, it was benign, but even if it wasn't-- there wasn't anything I could do. The doctor would have called me, told me it wasn't, then recommended the next course of action.

I know that worrying can be a good thing in certain cases, but in cases like this, it just exhausts me.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3398 | Registered: Oct 2011
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's some awesome books by Gavin debecker, the best of which is called The Gift of Fear. He explains that worrying allows your brain to feel like you are taking action when things are actually out of your control. I started writing down things I needed to actually do, and learned to let go of the rest.

Also I had something like you're describing. The second procedure they cut a big piece out - 2 layers of stitches - one for the muscle and one for the skin. It's just a scar now, I had clean borders. Let go of the outcome because worrying won't change it.
Fingers crossed for good news


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Divorced November 2013

The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.


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