But lately, everything bothers me, so what's the use?
WH is having a bad day. Well, it started yesterday, when he almost got fired - for something that may or may not even be his fault. And even if it was, it's hardly a fireable offense. But Texas is a "right to work" state, so the boss can fire him for any - or no - reason.
Today, WH is off doing a job that our boss promised to help him with. As per usual with my boss, he found an excuse not to help out. This leaves WH loading and unloading over 100 file boxes, in multiple trips, in 100 degree heat all by himself.
I don't blame him for being angry. I'm fairly annoyed about it myself. But it has my WH shut down. He's not speaking to anybody - of course, "anybody" includes me. He said he's mad and it's not fair to take it out on me, so he's just going to "keep his mouth shut." Part of me appreciates this. Sometimes when WH is mad and venting it can come across as though he's blaming me. I know he's not, it's just the way he communicates his anger sometimes. I don't mind avoiding this exchange, but at the same time, I'm his wife. He should be able to talk to me, to get this off his chest.
He was just back in the office unloading the first set of boxes. He should be eating lunch about now, but he doesn't have any money (or the company card) on him, and he just left for another load. Didn't even say good bye to me. Just, out the door, got in the van and took off.
I guess part of me is feeling selfish - hey, I'm hurt and angry, he's not allowed to be too! And even if he is entitled, I don't have the energy to deal with both of us right now.
Should I be worried that he won't let me in though? Or just step back and hope he calms himself down?me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."