I do believe I have a better connection with this women as I am a German National myself and I rushed into my marriage And that means....what...?
People from all races have connections with other races as well as their own. That has absolutely nothing to do with it. So it was worth wrecking your marriage because you guys share a common bond with what exactly? German cars and Oktoberfest?
Call me crazy but I don't see how you two being from the same race and country makes your affair special.
Also, you "rushed into marriage". Is that a way of saying you married too young and didn't get a chance to sow your wild oats back in the day?