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User Topic: My Heart is breaking
callmecrazy
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had been doing very well, as had he. Than last weekend I saw her name pop up as having sent him an e-mail on his phone and saw "I dont understand". He tried to click off of it bc we had been having a great night and he didnt want me upset (I had also had a bit much wine) Well...I saw him try to swipe the screen to black and grabbed the phone from him. Its gone...she is nowhere on his phone and he is saying he doesnt know where it went. He didnt delete it bc he never even opened up into it. Im confused. I heard there are messages that delete themselves in a short amt of time, or various different messaging things...what could the answer be???

Anyways, on top of this hitting me I have had 3 people Im close to (2 who I thought had great marriages)confide in me with 2 with cheating 1 NPD husband who triggered her old issues steming from her PTSD he knew about and finding a way to blame her instead of trying to help fix what he did. My heart is breaking. I feel there is no hope. And why divorce bc it really seems like 90% of marriages are horrible. Amazing how I was finally feeling good again for a while and now Im broken again.


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((callmecrazy)))

there's a good chance he has an app for a different email on his phone, and that's what you saw.

I'm so sorry. I know how very much this hurts.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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callmecrazy
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you hide the app though? I looked all through the phone and found no evidence of anything

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missyb32641
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It depends on the type of phone and app. Some apps look innocent yet are used as lockers for texting and emails. There is one that looks like a calculator but is used for texting.


ME: BS 41
Him FWH 43
Married 20 years together 22 at the time.
Working thru R.

Posts: 275 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Florida
doesitgetbetter
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are MANY apps that run invisibly on a phone. They have apps that do all sorts of crazy things to make cheating easier and more accessible. There are apps that will make your phone stay silent and not even light up when a certain number calls you or texts you so the AP can call or text without the BS ever getting suspicious. There are apps that delete a message once it's seen. There are apps that you can call someone from so that it won't ever show up on your phone bill. There are apps that allow you to send a text message from any phone number you want whether it belongs to you or not. There's all sorts of stuff.

Don't doubt what you saw, you know what you saw, and he's going to do all he can to make you think you didn't see it since you can't "find" it on his phone. He's still contacting her, it's clear from that message she sent.


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

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sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sadly - if things don't make sense - there is a reason ;( Emails don't just randomly dissapear.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

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