Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying



Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library


Contact Us
In Association with
Infidelity -
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
Newest Member: adamsr (45456)

General Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Checking WS phone,email-how did yours respond?
♀ Member
Member # 34465
Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Initially he was very resentful. He would 'allow' access to all but a work laptop (which I guess he had to 'clean up' before I got to it!) He too had problems with being made to feel like a child Oh well, whatever!

Now, whilst I think he is a long way off happy about it he offers no resistance and seems surprised when I mention something that I could only know if I looked at his emails.

Honestly though, I realise that it is a false reassurance that I get if I ever do 'snoop'. He could easily have secret accounts or phones. I try not to occupy my time with checking up too often.

You are responsible for your own happiness :)

Posts: 316 | Registered: Jan 2012
♀ Member
Member # 28979
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At first wh was ok with it open...then he began to become resentful. I asked not to long ago and he refused. We ended up in a tug of war over it. I let go. Fuck it and him.

Together 21yrs married 18yrs
2 kids, now 19 & 16
Bw: now 38
Wh: now 37
Mow: now 50
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1079 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
♀ Member
Member # 39802
Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He lets me look at his stuff.

As far as the phone, both our names are on the account so I feel its my right. He hasn't ever really said much about the phones.

But, he has changed email passwords on me--I just confront him then and we rehash everything.

Posts: 264 | Registered: Jul 2013
♀ Member
Member # 39584
Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He initially was against it - and he had a reason to be, as the A was still going on. Now, I can look through it whenever I feel the need to, which doesn't happen as often now that it doesn't bother him.

One of the books we read said "People with nothing to hide, hide nothing." IMO, it wouldn't bother him if everything on there was innocent.

WH - 35
2.5 year LTA

Posts: 160 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ Member
Member # 40150
Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH has no problem with me checking his phone. He leaves his phone out in the open and I can pick it up and look at any time. I track his phone when he is not with me and is totally ok with that. He has changed phone numbers, deactivated his email account t, and deactivated his Facebook. At this point it's all or nothing and I won't accept any BS. He is more than fine with all of it as he should be.

Me BW 41
Him WH 35
2 kiddos elementary school age
Married 11 years
05/20/13 let the rugsweeping & TT begin
07/01/13 finally!! The whole truth. Admits to EA/PA

Posts: 79 | Registered: Aug 2013
Topic Posts: 25
Pages: 1 · 2

Return to Forum: General Post Reply to this Topic
Go to :
© 2002 - 2014 All Rights Reserved.