My WS is upset when i check his phone calls, texts or email. Even still. Oh, he let me see the phone, but was very upset for the rest of the night...and this morning.
Looks like there is something to hide to me with this response.
How did your WS respond when you were checking the phone or emails?
06.30.12-- full PA with 24y ho-worker
08.16.12 DDay #2-are you f**king kidding me?
07.21.13-Dday #3-filed for divorce the next day
R #2-hopeful but cautious.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
I agreed to the purchase but I told him I was putting a keylogger on it because I did not want to have to boot up his laptop whenever I wanted to check it out. He said do whatever I felt I needed to do to feel comfortable. I prefer stealthy random checks.
I've only had a problem with MrH being angry about me checking up on him when he was hiding something.
❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣
BUT, he didn't change his e-mail address.
It's been over a year. He shares every single e-mail with me, does not have a facebook account or social networking site, and lets me see his phone whenever I want. I rarely ask anymore.
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."
I don't care if we are 10 years out - if I ask to check his phone he better let me!!!!!
Finally this is R 8/14/13
"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".
He viewed my inspection of ANY of the means by which he communicated with his whores as a tremendous invasion of his privacy. His "last" OW (who was not--he cheated on her, too) and he had an odd turn of phrase they shared, when discussing transparency: It was "giving up his SOUL."
And 100 percent because there was much, MUCH still to be hidden.
Hell, we've been separated for almost 3 years, and he recently got a new Trac-Fone (hence his moniker)---now that he no longer has to worry about me taking his very "SOUL," he's paranoid about the NSA, I mean, to pathological proportions.
It's really, really bizarre.
He changed his cell number on dday too which was a relief. We use the same unlock code on our cells and have access to both our emails.
[This message edited by whattheh at 4:40 PM, August 23rd (Friday)]
FWIW this is one of the few things he did right for R ( there are lots more he hasn't)