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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 13
PowerGlo
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay strong TC and stand on the truth. If your WW is anything like mine be prepared for some viciousness. They don't want to accept that what they did destroyed a marriage and a family so she'll do anything in her power to blame you. I have been blamed for everything including now, her floundering business. I laughed a little when her atty told me that one. I am one evil son of a bitch for divorcing her. Be prepared brother...


Married 27 years...
DDay #1 11/11/11 - AFF profile with 10-15 boy toys.
DDay #2 1/13/2012 - still at it with the AFF boys.
1/17/2014 - Divorced
I knew the moment had arrived
For killing the past and coming back to life


Posts: 133 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: NW Indiana
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just ONE asshole can shit on everybodys spacetime ripple.

SG, I completely understood what you are saying, while at the same time having no idea what you're talking about. Good stuff.

Hang in there, TC. Sending strength, brother.

PG, it sucks to hear that you are going through all of that but at least she has shown you the wisdom of moving on without her. I'm just sorry to hear that it's gotten that ugly.

[This message edited by Sal1995 at 2:56 PM, September 5th (Thursday)]


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1035 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
HotSauce
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Member # 40309
Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck TC. Strength.


Married 16 years
D-Day 2/8/13

Posts: 17 | Registered: Aug 2013
StillGoing
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Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spacetime Ripple is a new flavor at Ritas.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7115 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Inspector Spacetime?


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

Posts: 1611 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
StillGoing
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Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Who?


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7115 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
foundoutlater
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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's on first (finally something I can understand)


Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

Posts: 1062 | Registered: Jul 2011
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

New in the boy's thread. I got an iPad so I could talk to you gents and watch football.

Short story: exit affair for her. I'm out and I don't want her back. $ is separated and she stays away. When the house sells I'm moving to the beach. Good riddance.


D Day: 6/13/13
Moving on. Every Single Day.

Posts: 490 | Registered: Jul 2013
5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sunsets, read your story. Very jealous of your out. sorry it happened this way though. to be honest, choose to try to reconcile or go live on the beach? tough one.

who's on second?

a true Time Lord never dies.


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2070 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
foundoutlater
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What?


Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

crap, you're right he's on 2nd.


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2070 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

5454real,

She's making it easy. She is turning 40 next year. I'm a few years younger. She wants to party and cling to what's left of her youth. I want a family. Thank God we were never able to start one. My friends and family have been amazing. I found a great therapist. I don't want to be with a person who can be so ugly. I have ups and really bad downs and I will for awhile. I'm glad she exposed her true colors now though. I can, I will start over.


D Day: 6/13/13
Moving on. Every Single Day.

Posts: 490 | Registered: Jul 2013
5454real
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sunsets, no matter how you look at it 8 years is a lot of time invested. to find out the person that you invested so much in is not to she appeared to be always Hurts. it brings into question your own judgement and beliefs. she may be making it " easy". but really is it?

take some time, re discover who you really are. I never did and wind up picking poorly 5 times.

it won't happen again.


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2070 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
5454real
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

found out later, Bud Abbott and Lou Costello.

the Time Lords are in charge of the space time continuum. check out Dr Who.

I was saving time and trying to reply to 3 different topics in 1 post.

I may have been channeling a little bit of still going.

nowhere near as well though


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2070 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is a long time. I was in for life. I did everything for "us". I fully intend to take time and discover who I am and what I want to accomplish. Don't get me wrong: I'm in hell emotionally and will be for awhile. But I won't let her sink me and I won't make the same mistakes. I'll be a better man for going through all this shit. It's my commitment to myself


D Day: 6/13/13
Moving on. Every Single Day.

Posts: 490 | Registered: Jul 2013
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll be a better man for going through all this shit. It's my commitment to myself

^^^^^This!


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2070 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great outlook, sunsets. I feel your pain. A 40 yr. old wife who wants to be 20 again is a hell I've experienced and wouldn't wish on anyone. Hang in there and stick around the BM thread, the guys here are great.

Awesome moniker, btw.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1035 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sunsets - Hello, and welcome. You may be going through hell, but you really do have the right attitude about all of this. I have no doubt that you will come out the other end of this thriving.

TC - Just wanted to add on to the good luck and strength going out to you for tomorrow.


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thinkingclear
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome sunsets. You certainly sound as if you are on the right track. Beach sounds really nice to me. Maybe you should have a party too?

My appointment with the attorney has settled my nerves significantly. STBXWW should be moving out next week and joint custody shouldn't be a challenge. It isn't going to be a picnic, but I feel refreshingly optimistic about the future. My older boys are quite sad and confused, but seem to be doing reasonably well. I've told them that I'm always available to discuss whatever is on their minds. It is going to take them some time to adjust as they haven't known that there was trouble to begin with. Your thoughts and prayers for them would be greatly appreciated.

[This message edited by thinkingclear at 9:31 PM, September 5th (Thursday)]


BS - Me
WW - Her
10 month EA/PA

Posts: 211 | Registered: Apr 2013
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is going to take them some time to adjust as they haven't known that there was trouble to begin with.

It's always tough being blindsided. Makes me wonder sometimes if I/we shouldn't have let the kids see something.

Prayers sent


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2070 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
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