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User Topic: Un effin believable what co worker did
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Started posting on Facebook how hubby was intubated at Ginormous Religious hospital and might die. Even mentioned being held while she cried in the CICU. We took up a collection of hundreds of dollars. It was all A. Big. Fucking. Lie.

It all started last week when she didn't come to work Monday and when called said she'd asked for the day off but the manager forgot to write it down (said manager was conviently out of town). Person left in charge had tried to call her. Then called her hubby. He said she was at the lake and he'd go check on her. Next day still no co worker and no news. This is when coworker started posting about husband being near death. Person left in charge called coworker. "I'm at the hospital with hubby. We had a huge fight yesterday after YOU sicced him on me at the lake. Boo hoo,". Of course the person left in charge was horrified and spent all last week crying that she had caused coworkers husband's heart attack!

It was all bullshit. Coworker was drunk and hung over and couldn't make it to work. Then started posting all that shit. But she got BUSTED. Her ass is now in rehab and she is getting fired. What a bitch to put that guilt trip on person left in charge who is the sweetest thing on earth.

What is WRONG with people!?!?!


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2239 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Call the police and report her for fraud.

Seriously, it is fraud. I would suspect that she is an alcoholic/addict


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy Cow. That's horrible.

And I am assuming she works at the hospital and sees actual families grieving every day, and actual people dying. How dare she lie about that?

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:50 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)]



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Posts: 44948 | Registered: Sep 2006
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What the actual fuck.

That's so messed up.

What happened to the money? If it can't be returned, you should make her donate it to charity.


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"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We got the money back. Of course we couldn't match it with who gave what so ended up with an extra 50 dollars. We're putting that in our slush fund for morale.

This is a college health clinic. She just didn't think we'd figure it out. Idiot of course all the doctors and nurses have friends that work at all the hospitals and can easily figure out the truth. Unbelievably dumb.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2239 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTF???

Un-Fucking-Belivable the nerve of some people.

She is a *bad word we can't use here* and I hope the karma bus runs over her with spikes in the tires and then backs up.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Posts: 24595 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
why2008
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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What is WRONG with people!?!?!

Wow, few things make my jaw drop anymore but this story did. I feel so bad for your person in charge that felt blamed for the heart attack. I can't imagine being so cruel to another person to accuse them of something like that.

She sounds like a serious addict or maybe she has a personality issue. Probably both. Unbelievably dumb??? I remember reading somewhere that all addicts revert to child like thinking and behavior, doesn't this remind you of a 4 year old trying to lie their way out of a situation?

I know that you are livid (and rightly so!!!) but there is one hopeful point to your story. Hopefully this person takes rehab seriously and changes her life, because I can't imagine you can sink any lower than she did.

I'm sorry you and your workplace were victims, that is what is so fucked about the whole story... how much damage one person can do to so many people.

This may be a good real life story to relay to the college kids that come in about what addiction does to a person.


Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 10 and 7

Posts: 4074 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Maryland / DC
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is this person a lisenced professional, ie RN, or LPN? If so she needs to be reported to the board of nursing. This is the kind of stuff that they happily rip your lisence away for.

She should never be allowed to be around patients ever again. She is sick, and needs help, then a new carreer.

Oooooh That would make me very mad.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yuck, I'd be pissed too.

she's got some serious issues and will regret all these stupid stunts she's pulling...hopefully she gets help.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a moron! Sadly, there are some freaking crazies in the world who have no conscience whatsoever.


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Posts: 9747 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Garbage like that makes me sick.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG what a fucking waste of oxygen she is!!!


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2606 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Special place in hell for her I'm sure.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8698 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, coworker was LVN who is being reported to Nursing Board for this stunt and the alcohol abuse.

As the medical director I told the administrator and HR I wanted her fired immediately for cause.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2239 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Steppenwolf
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, this woman posted a lie on facebook and lied about the reason she didn't come in for work and you are all putting her in hell and calling her a c-bomb?
I mange about 40 people and we have at least three or four that would do this.
I get the fact that she took money from you. That's no good. I hope rehab helps her heal.

Side note: what sort of person who works in the medical field would think they actually caused a heart attack by a phone call?

Maybe I'm missing something


Me: WS- 30s
Her: BS- 30s RockyMtn



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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Steppenwolf, maybe you'd better read it again...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20281 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is this person a lisenced professional, ie RN, or LPN? If so she needs to be reported to the board of nursing. This is the kind of stuff that they happily rip your lisence away for.
She should never be allowed to be around patients ever again. She is sick, and needs help, then a new carreer.

I've read this thread numerous times and almost posted, then stopped myself.

I know that what was described in the OP is awful. It's infuriating to imagine anyone making up something like that to get out of work.

But y'all, I'm a nurse who is an addict in recovery, and I gotta tell you, I did a WHOLE lot worse than this when I was actively addicted. I won't tell you everything I did...some of it I am so ashamed of it still makes me want to throw up.

I will tell you that when my father was in the hospital after having total knee replacement, I went to his home to take care of their dogs and stole a bottle of Percocet that I found, because I knew they would give him more when they left the hospital. The day he came home, I called to check on him and he was crying in pain. The drug store was very crowded when he and my mom stopped on the way home, and he knew there was some Percocet at home, so he left the prescription to get filled and came on home. Now he couldn't find the Percocet and was crying. I had to tell my Dad that I had stolen his pain medicine.

You'd think that would be enough to shake me straight, but you'd be wrong. The lies I told, the people who suffered because I wanted to get high...

Holy Shit. I deserve to be in prison today. Or dead. I certainly do not deserve to be working in the field I love. I don't deserve the family I have, the friends I have. I am so grateful for mercy.

When I came home from treatment in October, 2008, I was a different person. My whole identity had to be ripped down and rebuilt. And part of that rebuilding has involved my career. Today, I live each day to the best of my ability in truth, integrity and kindness. I will spend the rest of my life making amends to the profession that called me as a little girl.

Maybe this woman won't get it. So many addicts don't. But maybe she will. And if she does, she will be a better nurse and better person.

Just my (probably skewed) take on it.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2779 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
stillstrong
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so grateful for mercy.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, some of your story. It sounds like someone who has worked as hard as you have to recover, certainly does deserve your family, friends, and work you love. I admire you.


Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13


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