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kickboxer
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been almost 6 weeks since DD, and I've been monitoring WH's text/phone/online activity closely.

In the wake of what I thought was "just" a long-distance EA, I asked him about other affairs...at first he denied, but eventually came clean about engaging in 2 ONS over the course of our marriage.

He rec'd a random text from most-recent ONS about a week ago.

I fell into a pit of sadness. Until that text, I had just sort of rugswept those emotions while dealing with the harassment and aftermath of the EA that led to the affair discovery in the 1st place.

It was a hard week, but I'm feeling better. He demanded NC, and has been good about reassuring me that our marriage is his top priority.

Last night, I was thinking about how different things would be for us right now if he hadn't been honest about those ONS in the beginning.

Man...you never know when your past is going to catch up with you. Honesty really is the best policy when it comes to surviving infidelity.


BW - 41 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

Posts: 247 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((kick)))




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dameia
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish WS's would realize that it's not always the A that kills the M, but TT.

It would be so much better if they just told the truth all at once. Throw the gasoline on the fire, KWIM?

I'm sorry you found out this information. It really sucks, but I'm glad you finally know what you're dealing with.

(((kickboxer)))


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

"People who live in a glass house have to answer the door" -Karl Pilkington


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Tesa
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Kick,
I'm sorry you are hurting. I know that you feel like everything is spinning but you will get through this!!

I am wondering why a ONS would text him?? Seems like more that just a one time thing if they are exchanging texts. I think you need to dig more!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((kickboxer))))


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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kickboxer
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tesa...RIGHT!?!?!?!?!? WTH is up with that?

She hasn't been in contact with him since I found out almost 6 weeks ago...this was completely random and he had to ask who it was, because he didn't recognize the number.

She was like "seriously? It's danexxx"

Like she's the love of his life or something. Pfffft. He didn't even get her name right when I asked about it. Must not have been that memorable. #effingwhore

Anyway, I don't know if she got a new number or what, but this particular number isn't showing up in our account history...or at least I haven't found it yet. If it's there, I'll find it.

In the meantime, it's a damn good thing he came clean about her when he did.

Otherwise, we'd be DONE.


BW - 41 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

Posts: 247 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
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