But, now what? He's an amazing, sober individual that's part of respectable society again?
I can't help but feel his actions have consequences. But what exactly is that? That we're both in IC/MC, 12 step/AA/Al-anon for the rest of our lives?? Now what? Great. We're normal people now? Normal family going on vacation this week?
I think I'm having trouble checking in to a hotel this week. As, that's where his PA's took place...
Fuck, man. Fuck. It sucks to be me right now. I mean, he's really trying and doing a good job of it. Aside from a slip up here and there, he's a completely different person. It just sucks.
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 4:10 PM, August 19th (Monday)]
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Sometimes when my WH is doing everything right it scares me because I want to let down my guard, but fight against it. It is such a hard balance to find and then throw in two, three, or a hundred steps back. It is exhausting.
We could be twins today, Crazy. I am relating to everything you say
::hugs:: LR! If your WS is truly remorseful, his consequence is that he has to live with what he's done to you for the rest of his life. No chance for parole, no time off for good behavior.
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."