Topic: First word you think of pre and post a??
Member # 39214
| Posted: 9:09 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
I'M ON THE FENCE
Posts: 278 | Registered: May 2013
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Member # 39327
| Posted: 10:09 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Pre - content
Post - unsettled
Posts: 5 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 38384
| Posted: 10:13 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
No doubt about it - post has been so much better since the anger has subsided.
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011. Discovered one year after it ended.
R is not linear
Posts: 1184 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Member # 40032
| Posted: 10:14 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Adultery is an extremely cruel and heinous act. Strong punishments should be in place to deter this epidemic(damages physical/mental health of the betrayed spouse and family).
BW- mid 50's (me)
M 33 T 35
Posts: 158 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Member # 38851
| Posted: 10:19 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Pre A - peaceful
Post A - devestation
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him
Posts: 229 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 28979
| Posted: 10:34 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Your beliefs dont make you a BETTER person. Your BEHAVIOR does.
Together 20yrs married 16 yrs
2 kids, now 17 & 14
Gutted wife: now 36
Cheating lying husband: now 35
Married old whore: now 48
Posts: 1012 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
Member # 34086
| Posted: 10:35 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
Posts: 2751 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 39833
| Posted: 10:57 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Pre A: Naive
Post A: Angry/On guard
BS(me) = 22
WBF = 22
Ow = 19(at the time)
WBF A = 08/10/2012-17/10/2012
D-Day = 24/01/2013
"It was easier for him to hurt me than it was for him to turn her down"
Posts: 69 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Scotland
Member # 40051
| Posted: 11:15 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Blissful innocent all consuming trusting love
EAaround a year still working that one out
PA sex 3-4times over three months
Posts: 72 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 38958
| Posted: 12:48 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R and taking small steps
"He is a fool then. He had a diamond and chose glass. "
Posts: 195 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 28555
| Posted: 12:52 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Post: Devastated x10
"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".
Posts: 1124 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Texas
Member # 34827
| Posted: 1:00 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Pre....trying to put a word to it.but basically took my M for granted..thought it was a given that we would never part.
After ..Academy Awards for acting..leading lady and man
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-22-12 discovered it never ended
OW..divorced slut who prefers committed men, specializing in befriending and bopping the fathers of her kids team mates
Posts: 3048 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 26928
| Posted: 1:03 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Pre - manipulated
Post - freed
I thought I had a good marriage, but he was never the person I thought he was.
Post As (multiple affairs on his part), I felt free to drop the dead weight I'd been carrying and (finally) move on with my life.
I have to say its been a lot better since I got off the crazy train.
Me - 41
My Rockstar (Hubs #2) - 46, faithful, & an absolute doll!
DD(20) and DS(17)
5 Furkids (3 Dogs and 2 Cats)
The Usual Suspects:
XWH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.
Posts: 4640 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: *Wink*
Member # 32324
| Posted: 1:15 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Married 7 years
Daughter, 6 yrs old
I edit my posts often. Improper grammar irritates me.
Posts: 569 | Registered: May 2011
Member # 29752
| Posted: 2:39 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Told my request was one so unlike being you. Then, was punished for asking, by watching you become all that I needed, for someone new.
...so,..he traded my heart,for a hard-on.
BW~ me 37
CH~ he 37
20 years on 12/12/12, 2 kiddos 14&17
Posts: 64 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: here
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Member # 37808
| Posted: 2:55 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
though sunflowergirl30 nailed it
two kids-still in school
Posts: 6 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 8291
| Posted: 7:57 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
This is pretty fucking sad if you ask me.
Posts: 2346 | Registered: Sep 2005
Member # 26741
| Posted: 8:09 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Posts: 1071 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
Member # 37043
| Posted: 9:07 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
Pre - Fun
Post (initally) - shitstorm
Post (now) - deep
Me, BS, 30s
Him, WS, 30s, Steppenwolf
D-Day 1: September 2011, 6 week EA
D-Day 2: January 2013, discovered EA was a PA; there was another PA in 2010. All TT.
Goal = serenity.
Posts: 662 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 26854
| Posted: 10:04 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013|
DDay - 11/4/09
EA/PA with childhood sweetheart/ kissed
R - 11/25/09
Life is not a dress rehearsal
Posts: 1307 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Northeast
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