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User Topic: First word you think of pre and post a??
TICKED OFF
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This morning I was thinking of what ONE word would describe my marriage both pre and post a.......

Pre a I came up the the word "content"

Post a I came up with the word "sad"

What is the first word you come up with when thinking of either or????


Posts: 2397 | Registered: Sep 2005
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For both: fraud


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8343 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre- frustrated
Post- hopeful


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
mom of 2
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm right there with you TICKED.

Pre: content (ok, other than those last few months, but I had 20 years of "content")

Post: devastated

edited for typo

[This message edited by mom of 2 at 4:00 PM, August 18th (Sunday)]


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13289 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre- trust

Post- anger

I remember looking at my husband at thanksgiving and feeling so in love with him. It either just had or was about to sleep with the skank. How pathetic am I?


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre- overwhelmed

Post- Empowered


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7435 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
needrespect
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre~ content
Post~ shattered


BS-me 45
WH-40
married 11 yrs, together 15
DS13 DS9
Dday May 2012 EA
False R... Dday#2 11/30/2012 PA same MOW

The opposite of love is not hate ... It is indifference.
Status:%$$&^&^$#@@
seems I'm on the 15 year plan


Posts: 69 | Registered: Dec 2012
niaveone
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre: frustrated

Post: mourning


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married: 16 years
2 children
2 DDays

Posts: 193 | Registered: Aug 2013
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PreA - confused
PostA - guarded


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
ok4now
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre A - Safe
Post A - Lost


BS - 39 (me)
WS - 33
DD - 6
D Day - 6/2/11 EA (would have been a PA if the OW was game)
"I'm not going to be the person I am expected to be anymore"
Blue de Chanel Commercial

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Maryland
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre A: Distant

Post A: Connected


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2094 | Registered: Nov 2011
WhatsRight
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Default  Posted: 2:34 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

perplexed

dead


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy


Posts: 1858 | Registered: Apr 2012
stupidgurl
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Default  Posted: 3:39 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Before his EA: Naive
After his EA: Numb

Before my RA: Resentment
After my RA: Apologetic


me WW-31
him BH- 31

2002/3 (him) EA

PA(me)-Nov 2007

R


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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 5:13 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre: naive as fuck
Post: cognizant

RA: I'll show you
RA: WTF?!?

eta: the RA shiznit

[This message edited by Vulcanized at 5:15 AM, August 19th (Monday)]


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 733 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 6:30 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre: blinded
post: sighted


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1377 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 6:33 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre: contented

Post: sick


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3442 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
Happydays
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre: family
Post: Square1


BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Mar 2013
PurpleBirch
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does it have to be just one?

Pre: Happy
Post: disillusioned/heartbroken/angry


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
StepAside
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Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

pre: blissfully ignorantly naive

post: done (?)

[This message edited by StepAside at 8:16 AM, August 19th (Monday)]


Me 48yrs, douche midlife crisis poster boy- 50yrs
too many A's to bother to count, he is a predator that targets loosers like himself
Last Dday April 12/10-Divorcing
We live in a world where the fear of illusion is real

Posts: 1511 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Ingersoll Ontario
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre: stressful
Post: dead


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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