This morning my WH and I brought my car to be detailed so we can trade it in for a new one(s). Hate spending $ on a car we're getting rid of, but I want it to be presentable to a dealer.
Anyway, we decided to grab some breakfast while we were waiting. I suggested IHOP, and he said "You're so smart. That's why I keep you around." Jokingly, I answered, "Now if we just just figure out why I keep you around!" He got serious, and said "I don't know. I think if things had been the other way around you would have been gone already."
Honestly, if you had asked me a couple of months ago, I would have said the same thing. But I'm finding that nothing is as black and white as it seems, and you can never be sure what you'd really do in a situation until you're facing it front-and-center.
I could tell, for the first time since d-day, that he's really starting to get it. Will that translate into R for us? I sure hope so, but I don't think we're quite there yet.
While at breakfast, we began discussing his desire to go back to school (he never went to college after high school), and what he might want to focus on. I was surprised to learn that he wants to go into bio-chemistry (!). Then I triggered for a second - I remembered reading on OW's FB that she works in a university lab. So I asked him, "Is that what she does?" He laughed and said "Not even close. She cleans up rat poop in the lab."
HAHAHA!!!!! This just about made my morning. I told him I suddenly hate her just a little bit less. I couldn't think of anybody more deserving to clean up rodent shit. me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."