Apologies for this long post. It's my first one.
My wife is diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. Throughout 2012 she had some extreme manic phases, became hyper-sexualized, and led a secretive life of ongoing cybersex with multiple partners.
In August 2012 I found out and confronted her. She admitted to it, and promised to sever all connections with her online lovers.
However, she secretly kept in touch with several of them, and actually met one of these guys in person, and had a one-night-stand with him, only a few days later.
About a month after the ONS, came the 2nd D-day. When I found out about the ONS I confronted her again. I also found out that she and the Om didn't use any protection, and that she used my debit card to pay for the hotel room - Ouch, that's one way to add insult to injury! As far as I know, this was the only PA she's had. I sincerely hope so!
It wasn't until January 2013 that she finally gave up her secret life of cybersex, severed all inappropriate contacts, gave me all her passwords, and became truly repentant.
Unfortunately I found that while she was out of town in July 2013, she visited a chat room and then indulged in a few hours of cybersex. After confronting her about this, she appears to have no memory of the cybersex encounter/conversation/activity. Now she keeps her laptop put away and doesn't use it, because she's afraid of her cybersex addiction taking control again.
I don't know what the future holds, but we've become distant over the months since the first, and especially the 2nd D-day. We also have 3 school-aged kids, who would be devastated if we were to divorce. Also, logistically and financially, we can't really afford to split up. I don't know where to go from here, but the whole experience has made me so sad I don't have the words to express it.