Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
Find a Local Couselor
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: heartbrokenmrsj (44312)

Off Topic Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Your Footprint...
tryingagain74
♀ Member
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have done something exceptional. When I think of the horrible mistakes I might have made and how I might have hurt my children if I had not had SI and simply lashed out blindly and angrily without the support and help of this site...

This is your legacy. Be proud.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3542 | Registered: Oct 2011
inhishands55
♀ Member
Member # 9454
Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry for your threats..DS and MH, you have shown others that you can get beyond infidelity and get back the life you once had...

For someone to threaten you and MH that is just awful...

You and MH have a wonderful footprint and we are all your children...

I came here after my divorce in 2006..I was 5 yrs out when I was told about you..I wish I had known about your Site before...It would have helped me so much to get beyond the hell my XH put me through at that time...

I have posted on and off..Have made a few cherished friends along the way...You don't know how much you mean to me and all your other children...

What is bad is, I am older than you and I will never leave the footprint that you have....

I give my time donating platelets to cancer patients and doing taxes for free with AARP..I believe in the golden rule...And I believe in KARMA...What goes around comes around...

I have lived to see some of that happen...So hang in there and know that you and MH are loved by many.....


Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
poopylala
♀ Member
Member # 30119
Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tsol25 told me about what happened and I'm absolutely outraged that anyone would even consider some ridiculous stunt like this.

DS, I know I'm really young still, but even I wonder about my impact and the value of the days I spend on this planet. The way I see it is my goal is to help people- whether that is by being the ear they needed for a serious vent or by holding their hand through joyous and sorrowful moments in life.

In fact, it can even be as simple as what I did today- I work at a kids performing arts camp and a boy asked me a question about science (I have a science degree but love teaching dance). I answered him in a way he could understand and tonight, I drew up a whole thing on the topic to help him further understand it. It's not curing cancer or fixing our economy, but it is showing he matters and his curiosity is definitely respected. That can make or break a childhood (and the rest of their life) because my dad was sick of my asking questions but my mom encouraged it. I felt validated and understood by my mom.

All I did was answer a kid's question. We don't often realize the impact of our existence to others. You have touched more people, inside and outside of SI, than you realize. It's easy to minimize that impact but it still exists.

PS- I can be your child


BGF (me)- 25
FWBF (him)- 24
Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

"To err is human.
To forgive,
divine"


Posts: 960 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Houston, TX
DragnHeart
♀ Member
Member # 32122
Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

***waving Hi to our new cop member***

That was my first thought to do when I read about it. But ya got to it first

I am turning 37 this year. Not old, not really young. Yes I have kids but I constantly fear that my affect on them is only to screw them up

I have thought about my "footprint" ever since I was young. I actually fear that NO one would show up to my funeral. My paternal grandmother passed and 90% of the people at her funeral were 20 or younger. She left a huge footprint on many of my and my brothers friends. She was "grandma" to all. That's legacy.

For me, well what will people remember? Don't know. But staring up at the stars a few nights ago watching a meteor shower I couldn't help but feel "wow, I am really insignificant in the grand universe".

I also thought "I wonder if there's someone on another planet out there staring up at the stars thinking the same thing right now?".

Your legacy is undeniable! As everyone has said this site alone, whether we know you both in person or not!!!, has made such a profound difference in so many lives.

Your footprints are set in concrete.


Posts: 2792 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Canada
lost_in_toronto
♀ Member
Member # 25395
Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I can honestly say that if it wasn't for you and MH and SI, my daughter would not have been born because my WS and I would not have reconciled. So every footprint she makes has a little of you in it - and I know she isn't the only SI baby!


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1652 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
Deeply Scared
♀ Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you to everyone that lifted me up yesterday...I really appreciate all your kindness and words of comfort

I'm doing much better today...no need to respond but I didn't want anyone to think I didn't appreciate their help


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196533 | Registered: May 2002
sisoon
♂ Member
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am now imagining DS's 450,000th post in 2033, saying: 'Gee, I'm about to turn 70, and I don't feel old.'

On that same day, MH unveils the Stereophile skin....


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9773 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Deeply Scared
♀ Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196533 | Registered: May 2002
UnexpectedSong
♀ Member
Member # 21761
Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think about my footprint at all. I have family and friends. I have seen 2 out of the 3 fantasy places I have dreamed of. I have learned. I have listened to music.

My "footprint" is that I have lived and loved.


WW(SA)
"Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Boris Becker

Posts: 6075 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: California
hit-by-a-train
♀ Member
Member # 8923
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It hurts my heart that you don't see immediately what a HUGE footprint that you - and MH - have....

((((DS))))


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus
**Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Grief & joy coexist.

Posts: 2279 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA
StillGoing
♂ Member
Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am now imagining DS's 450,000th post in 2033, saying: 'Gee, I'm about to turn 70, and I don't feel old.'

2033!?



“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7368 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
uncertainone
♀ Member
Member # 28108
Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Well... I wrote a book. Does that count?

After slogging through only two pages of the steaming garbage "50 Shades Of Grey", no.

May need electro shock therapy to evict that 5 minute waste dump.

Seriously, pretty cool. Anyone that can do that is in my admiration circle. I have to take adderall to get through Chilton's manuals and those have pictures.

DS, you've left behind a huge footprint even if you were beamed up tomorrow. This site is just one of the amazing legacies you have, I'm certain. Death threats are no joke and I'm sure you're both quite shaken. I'm so sorry. 


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


Posts: 6795 | Registered: Mar 2010
bbee
♀ Member
Member # 17840
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I can't say anything that folks haven't said already, except that I love you, DS! (And not in a creepy way.)


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


Posts: 6645 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
Topic Posts: 73
Pages: 1 · 2 · 3 · 4

Return to Forum: Off Topic Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.