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User Topic: Is it sometimes better that they hire an attorney?
Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My stbxh had agreed to use my attorney for the divorce. He would get upset whenever the attorney asked for documents (financial) for filings. He doesn't like filling out forms (who does?) After the last request he ran out and hired an attorney. At first I felt a little sick about it, but now I think perhaps this is a good thing? I guess my question is: Maybe this is better? Perhaps his attorney can get him to file paperwork on time? He's extremely PA... Or is this going to turn ugly? My attorney said don't worry about it, the laws are the laws..

Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: NW
Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex was better at getting things to us when his first attorney was on the cas. Second attorney was worthless, and he is impossible as a pro se litigant. I would see it as a good thing,overall.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It depends on the attorney. An attorney can be great about keeping your STBX on task - responding to requests, and being realistic about expectations (e.g. if you are in a 'marriage property' state, then you are entitled to half of the marital property including retirement accounts, etc).
A terrible attorney, well, that's a different story.

My ex at first didn't want to hire an attorney, then he did. I got nervous but attorney told him, "You committed adultery in a 'fault' state and she is giving you 60% of the assets and filing no fault. Take it and run."


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my case it was a good thing. Without an attorney he was stupid and difficult. With an attorney, he was still stupid and difficult but paying an obscene amount of money for the name on the door to tell him he was being stupid and difficult.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the responses. I'm trying not to stress about it. I need to stop being shocked when a cheating liar does something he said he wouldn't do. Now he can pay 2 attorneys to tell him to send in his paperwork!

Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: NW
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my case it was a good thing. Without an attorney he was stupid and difficult. With an attorney, he was still stupid and difficult but paying an obscene amount of money for the name on the door to tell him he was being stupid and difficult.
lol Tesla!


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

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