Thanks for the advice and perspective!
We aren't at the point where theres been many harsh words between us though our dynamic is outside of our normal.
I don't think that the PTSD will ever be gone completely. Both my Dad and Step Dad are combat vets from courtesy of Vietnam. They both still have things pop up from time to time. I brought it up as perspective given the circumstances.
I have been thinking about 'enabling'. That may be more of my question...at what point am I being a doormat? At what point have I gone beyond tolerant of him going through a rough patch to co-dependent? When is it fair to say 'Enough is Enough! quit being such a crank?
RM may be spot on. He leaves Thursday morning. Shortly before I got on the plane this evening I received some very sweet texts from him. Much more normal.
Either way, I'm trying to find that balance between "I understand" and "If you're going to act like a turd, go lie in the grass!"
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler