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User Topic: Out of the mouth of OW...
Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been frequenting the forums that I use to visit before I discovered this one. I have been hanging out in the "support" forum for OW/M. Funny enough this forum is filled with former OW/M who are very deadset against affairs now, like almost fanatical about it. But I digress...

I had to share this gem, because I just about died when I read it: An OW came on and was telling the story of her and her MM's affair. Of course her BH is controlling, and doesn't approve of this other side of her (she said he doesn't approve of her being active, traveling, and taking risks... no joke ) But what got me was it came out that she married her husband DURING her affair. When people called her on it this was her response:

"FWIW, I did not mention fidelity in the vows that I wrote."

Now is it just me or is that an especially stupid thing to say?

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 9:59 PM, August 12th (Monday)]


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1102 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rationalize much?


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow....


Me - 41
My Rockstar (Hubs #2) - 46, faithful, & an absolute doll!
DD(20) and DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs and 2 Cats)

The Cheater:
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Married 18yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 5531 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: United States
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well then. What's the issue?


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
SBB
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would have been handy if they HAD mentioned their intentions for infidelity now wouldn't it....

What a Jillarse, seriously.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

Posts: 4561 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL. You know I don't recall me and STBX saying anything about fidelity in our vows either (we had a civil ceremony). No wonder why he cheated on me!


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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