Topic: Douchebag is a daddy.
Member # 39267
| Posted: 9:28 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
So I've been doing pretty good with the no contact thing. I haven't responded to the "accidental" texts that he sent to me rather then his Twinkie. I haven't told her or anyone else about the lies he's told about our relationship and about himself. I haven't responded to any emails that did not pertain to finances or the sale of our house.
Last night a friend of mine texted me and told me that he's now a daddy. He found out on Facebook.
I didn't sleep all night because I tortured myself with the thought of his happy new family and how he was able to throw away 9 years just like that for someone he'd only known for 2 weeks.
And while he's posting pictures of her and their new baby, his relationship status still says married and he's made no mention of filling for divorce.
When will this emotional roller coaster end?
Sometimes you have to stand alone, just to make sure you still can.
Posts: 58 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 33226
| Posted: 9:41 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
I'm sorry, honey. That's a rather dramatic drop to sit through. When things were most difficult for me, it sometimes helped to remember that for every fall on the rollercoaster, there was a rise ahead.
Sending you strength.
You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
Posts: 25530 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 37303
| Posted: 9:47 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
(((douchebagfree))). I totally understand the roller coaster ride. It sucks. I'm so not looking forward to the day OW gets pregnant. She's young so I know that she wants kids, even though he doesn't. I also worry about our son and how he will take it.
My heart goes out to you!
Me: BS (37) 38 now
Him: WS (38) 39 now
OW: Only 23, now 24
1st DD: 4/2010 (same girl)
Tried R and MC
2nd DD: 7/12/12 and my child was there!
Posts: 94 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 37215
| Posted: 11:58 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
(((((Douchebagfree))))) I am so so sorry. That is difficult news to hear. I'm sorry that you lost sleep due to torturing yourself. I am sorry that YOU are suffering from HIS brokenness. I wish I had an answer to your question but I don't. Roller coasters suck balls. I hope you can rest tonight.
Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!
Posts: 2234 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 28622
| Posted: 12:04 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
I am sorry.
I tortured myself with the thought of his happy new family
let that ^^ go!!
It takes very expensive photography and selective memory to have a happy new family with a newborn. It is 10-12 diapers a day, little to no sleep, healing from the physical trauma of childbirth, arguing over whose turn it is to get up or resentful that it is ALWAYS your turn, exhaustion, too many guests, not enough guests, and did I mention the exhaustion?
(((hugs))) the roller coaster sucks.
Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
Posts: 5842 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Member # 38735
| Posted: 12:21 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
Ugh, I'm so sorry. That would be really hard. I know OW in my case desperately wants a baby too. STBX does not want more kids, but he is too much of a pussy to tell her. He doesn't want to risk losing her.
Anyway, I know the day she gives birth will be really hard for me. Lots of hugs to you.
BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Posts: 903 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 34353
| Posted: 1:47 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
Just hope the baby has colic, though I don't wish it on the baby but you get the idea
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1632 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Member # 35229
| Posted: 6:23 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
Nothing like a baby to bring out a selfish, useless, pain in the arse, POSs true colours. I unfortunately learned that the hard way AFTER having kids with the sad clown.
As the XMIL so ironically said to me once: "you never know what kind of father they'll be until its too late". I would add husband to that too.
((Douchebagfree)) Don't believe the view from the window - you were in that house once, you know the monster she has just had a child with. You are free of it - her sentence has just begun.
Changing the players DOES NOT change the game.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5580 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 35985
| Posted: 9:07 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
I can relate, DBFree.
Both Fucktard and Troutface are 42. She has never been married, no kids but she wants them and I'm sure she feels the clock ticking. Fucktard has two kids from his first marriage who are now 17 and 15 and he does not want more children (he certainly does not want to repeat the demanding infant years nor be age 60 when they graduate high school.) I have no doubt he is selfishly stringing her along with avoidance tactics like "there is so much going on at my work since the merger, let's just table that for now" blah blah blah.
I see this playing out in one of two ways:
1) She gets sick of him stalling and finally makes an issue of defining what their "future" is. He will be fine with this because then he can say it was HER who ended things (he is a big giant coward).
2) She 'accidentally' gets pregnant. Cue the resentment from the older kids as the new baby gets all the time, attention and resources. And of course, baby takes time and attention away from HIM, so he will seek validation elsewhere. Lather, rinse, repeat.
I promise you it isn't all rainbows and unicorns as they want all their FB friends to believe. (But you may want to stock up on popcorn at some point....)
Me: Finding my Sunlight
Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.
Posts: 1252 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness
Member # 18334
| Posted: 9:33 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
This is when the fairy tale ends and reality sets in. They always try to make things look great when they really aren't. You won't see them posting pics of the screaming fits, crying or of them up being up all night with a sick baby or one who doesn't want to sleep.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
Posts: 4782 | Registered: Feb 2008
Member # 40287
| Posted: 9:45 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
Wow! Douchebag is right...along with a few other choice names. I'm sorry you are having to go through this, but you are WAY BETTER OFF!!!! He is pawn scum. That poor kid! People who behave in the manner as those two have should feel nothing shame for what they have done. What comes around, goes around!
BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.
Posts: 316 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
Member # 27544
| Posted: 10:21 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.
Posts: 2231 | Registered: Feb 2010
Member # 36134
| Posted: 9:36 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
I expect XSO's OW to want kids. He didn't want them, would not allow his wife to get pregnant. Ow is 27, he is 54.
He dated me for 8 years, helped me raise 4 daughters thru the preteen and teen years. He loved my kids, when we ended, he wanted to keep in touch with them.
Unless my kids tell me or his sister, I won't know. And I'm ok with that.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Posts: 5162 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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