I hear you. Had a fun family outing last night going to a pro baseball game....great game, beer, daughters first game ever, beautiful night, wife being nice, weather great, every aspect was close to perfect....and yet, I had a couple rounds of that intense pain you speak of.
Silent prayers and a quick SI check on my phone kept my pain from derailing my enjoyment of the outing.
This site is comforting....but doesn't take away the raw pain our WS invited into our marriage.
God be with us all.