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User Topic: Soooo... The date! **update**
HURTAGAIN1981
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Met him outside the train station as planned. There was a change of plan due to conflicting train times so my friend took me and dropped me off and planned to pick me up later on.

He seemed a bit nervous/shy at first which wasn't what I expected but was fine. I'm usually the shy/awkward one but did my best to comment here and there. As soon as we got some drinks and sat down we were fine. Talked about various things all evening.

At the end of the date, we went to get his train. Gave me a hug and said we should do it again. So I was waiting for my lift, and he messaged me saying he had missed his train, it was the last one of the night and asked if it would be possible for my friend to help him out with a lift. Sooo.... we gave him a lift to his area which was about a 15/20 minute drive. He lives alone with a dog and we joked about his dog wondering what was going on if she could smell a new person. So I got a tissue and rubbed my hands on it and gave it to him to give to the dog to see if she reacted.

On the way back, he messaged me saying that it didn't have much effect, but sent a picture of the dog laying down with her paw on the tissue.

He told me to thank my friend for the lift. Said, "So not scared off by my mild shyness? I didn't think I was too bad" and mentioned me having to meet the dog in person. Also said that he thought it went pretty well and I seem very down to earth and easy to talk to.

So at that point I thought it was fine.

Messaged him today to ask about his day, he replied and asked about mine, I told him and ended with another question and I haven't heard anything since lol

Maybe another poofer?


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cayc
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He doesn't sound like a poofer yet. He sounds like he's probably stymied at how to carry on a conversation via text lol.

I'm glad you had a nice time. And sometimes it can be fun to be the one who recognizes the neurosis of others. It takes the pressure to be perfect off - as in look how much worse off they are than me kwim?


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He just sounds shy.

And it sounds like you both had a nice time


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gma56
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's only the next day and he did send a couple texts.Maybe he was busy today and haven't had a chance to answer.
Then we have some people (not to mention names but his name is CW) only rarely texts.

Not a poofer yet.


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree... not a poofer yet. Maybe he just isn't a texter.

I'm glad you had a good time.


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HURTAGAIN1981
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks all.

He actually replied this morning saying good morning and answering the question from yesterday. At this point I'm not sure I really care anyway as I don't know him, so if he poofs then it will be onto the next I suppose.

I find it a bit odd though because he was messaging quite a lot before we met.

I get the impression that he's a bit cautious too. We talked a bit about exes and he basically told me that he had been single for 8 months and hasn't really bothered since because she turned out to be a bit of a psycho, controlling and possessive.

He also touched upon previous more serious relationships and he's been cheated during a 5yr relationship. He forgave her and tried to work it out but she left him in the end anyway to go traveling. And two girls he was previously dating were texting their exes behind his back. So after telling him a bit about my past, he said that we're basically in the same boat. This was mostly all via text before we met.

He also wasn't as outgoing as I expected. I thought he might be a 'one of the lads' type but I don't think he is.


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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He kinda sounds like material you can work with.

I wouldn't write him off yet.

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HURTAGAIN1981
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I won't write him off. If he asks to meet again I probably will, but if he doesn't then 'oh well' :)

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