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User Topic: Just when you think things are all severed
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got an email from WXH saying that he received a notice in the mail from the state about back due taxes from a joint return 4 years ago. He is willing to pay his half, and will scan me a copy. Great.

Can I just ignore him until I get my own notice?


Posts: 3445 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I were you I would not ignore it but I would do my own investigation on why you owe back taxes. It could be as simple as sending them a form because it either was not filed or got lost somewhere along the line.

If you filed jointly then you may not get your own notice. The notice may have gone to his address but addressed to both of you. So get a copy of the notice, figure out what it is all about, and determine the best way to take care of it. But you do not want to ignore the tax man because they will come after you.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a good point Dreamboat. If there is nothing in the mail today I will have him send me a copy. I don't know what it is, I just feel so gross having to be in contact with him. Thinking I'd made so much progress, but I guess not.

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devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Email him Crescita. Just say I did not receive a copy, please send a copy to me so I can see what it is.

That's it. No contact, and you don't have to hear his voice. You do need to see it yourself though to see what it is.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Depending on what it is I would see if you can still file as an injured spouse.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, so he sent me a copy. It says we didn't even file. We did, and got a refund, so I will be protesting it. Did he even read it? Did he just expect me to send him money, or does he care so little about $700 that he would rather pay it than be involved in a protest himself? Argh.

Posts: 3445 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Pippy
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just take your tax receipts/statements to the IRS office with the letter he sent you and they will set it straight.


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


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gma56
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he care so little about $700 that he would rather pay it than be involved in a protest himself? Argh
Ugggggh ! Enough !
Just shaking my head.


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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We've had that happen with various taxes, too. Luckily, many things he put only in his name, as part of the control issues he has.

Anyway...I find it a lot easier to go directly to the offices in question, as the other posts say, even if nearly exh sends a copy.

I don't trust him as far as I can throw him and his L is even worse, thinking they can get blood from a stone, so I take the time with the extra step and then have a back up to compare.

Also, this gives me a chance to have a voice in a bill with my name on it, too At times I found that he hasn't even responded, so this way at least someone has.

And, sometimes I've been able to have my address put on the account, so that I'll get my own if a next time comes.


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A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks all! I feel much better about it after the initial combined aggravation of contact from WXH and a tax audit saying I owe $1400. Hopefully it can be taken care of easily and I won’t need much from WXH.

Gma, is that frustration directed at me for being so whiny or my WXH being so cavalier about it?


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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can deal directly with the IRS and not have to talk to him or ask him for anything.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I realized this is a STATE tax return issue. Same thing applies tho. Contact your state tax office and deal with it without having him as the middle man


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know which state you're in and I can tell you they made a huge mistake with my taxes last year. I had to jump through hoops to get it straightened out, so don't accept anything from them at face value. If you have proof it's paid, fight them.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yikes Sad. I still have a copy of what I filed. The refund went to WXH's account so I've asked him to get bank statements showing the refund amount. Hopefully if it all matches up it will be adequate proof, not only that we filed, but that they received it.

Posts: 3445 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
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