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User Topic: Can't trust anyone or anything
FoolontheHill
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

About a month ago I found out that my WW had been having a 3 year long emotional affair (she says just emotional). This startd right on the heals of a 3 month long physical affair. Just when I was at the point of fully forgiving about the first one this other crap comes up. It is so bizarre, wife is 42 OM I the so called emotional affair is 71 (yes you read that correctly). Phone records indicate they spoke on average 96 times per month for the last 16 months.

Anyway, she introduces him to our local bar restaurant hangout even though he lives (with his wife) on the other side of town. He now hangs out there regularly and I see his car. The other day after seeing his car pull out, I doubled back to my home to see is car turning around in my neighbors driveway. I live on a dead end street. When I confronted WW she defended the conduct by saying there a 100s of reasons he could have driven by.

I about at the end of my rope with the 3 years worth of lies. Is this unacceptable behavior or am I blowing out of proportion?


Me BH 46
WW 42

Dday 1: 10/20/2010 -- 3 month physical affair
Dday2: 7/7/2013 -- 3 year emotional affair but I think it was more.


Posts: 83 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Florida
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry you are going through this . The behavior is completely unacceptable, and you are not blowing it out of proportion. And I agree with your bio, there probably is more to this than a 3-year EA-only. A man could groom a married woman for that length of time without expecting anything physical in return, but that wouldn't pass my smell test. Especially after she's shown that she's willing to cross the PA boundary.

I'm only 6 months past D Day, so I encourage you to post your story on the Betrayed Men thread in the I Can Relate forum. There are some wise vets who'll give you great support and advice. Best wishes.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciling


Posts: 1331 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
FoolontheHill
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Member # 40225
Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Sal. Not sure where to post my story in hat forum. There seemed to be a ton of betrayed men threads.

BTW her rationale for no PA only an EA is that the OM had his prostate removed and can't have sex. I think Im being gas lighted.


Me BH 46
WW 42

Dday 1: 10/20/2010 -- 3 month physical affair
Dday2: 7/7/2013 -- 3 year emotional affair but I think it was more.


Posts: 83 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Florida
FoolontheHill
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Member # 40225
Default  Posted: 1:04 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And now I find out OM Texted WW today and yesterday she di not want to,out the energy into it is did not tell me at first. Really!?

This is a guy who drives by my home after she presumably told him not to contact her and then he contacts her writing "BFF". This is NOT a 15 yr old. He is 71 nearly 30 years my wife's senior. I'm getting concerned about the geriatrics grip on reality.

[This message edited by FoolontheHill at 7:01 AM, August 8th (Thursday)]


Me BH 46
WW 42

Dday 1: 10/20/2010 -- 3 month physical affair
Dday2: 7/7/2013 -- 3 year emotional affair but I think it was more.


Posts: 83 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Florida
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