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User Topic: I shouldn't care butttt
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Had lunch with a friend today. Looked good, nice day. She mentioned about STBXH OW#3 removing all pics of him and the announcement that they were engaged. I said yes, I hope that karma is getting him. She said she doubted it. She just figured that his lawyer told him to remove it before our mediation.

That of course put me in a funk. I was happy (my bad) that perhaps life was not all unicorns and rainbows.

I am in a no fault state and there is no real issue for where DS will be at his age.

Do you think a lawyer would have that removed? And how would that even come up? STBXH and OW#3 aren't even FB friends. So I am not sure he even looks at her page. He barely uses his.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 723 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not unless your friend knows something that you don't about the law. If its a no fault state, I would doubt there are any consequences for obvious infidelity. If the law doesn't allow it, judges can't penalize someone financially for being a douche.

The bigger issue is how the comment made you feel. I know exactly how it goes. Every time I hear something shitty about their life, I smile. By the same token, it will hit me if I find out something went well for them.

We both have to make a choice to try and not care. It's a bitch, I know. But, it has stalled my healing and it will stall yours.

The main thing to remember, I suppose, is that these leopards don't change their spots. We didn't turn them into lying, cheating bastards. They came out of the box that way, so no matter who is in their lives, that's what they will always be. We have tok believe that. We have to find our anger again, hold our heads high and declare that they are non-mother-fucking factors.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2772 | Registered: Jan 2011
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been getting better at this, but with divorce mediation/trial looming in days I have been thinking more of A$$hat and what I have gone through in the last 19 months.

I guess I will never understand how this happened, and where the man I thought I married went.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 723 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
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