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User Topic: Shhhhhh ! I Have a Secret !
gma56
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Cool  Posted: 5:15 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CW is back in my life after a year.
He needed a break after we finally got our divorces finished. He suffered with a bad case of PTSD and needed to relocate to figure out his direction. We met when he was only 2 mo from separation so he had healing to do that I couldn't help him with.

He's doing much better and has refocused. We talked 6-7 times in the last year. A few weeks ago he called... I had given up and was NC for 2mo.
I tried to detach (tried every SI idea and a few I read about)and even was accused of still having feelings for CW by another man. Other man was right, I really thought it was over forever. We're going slow but it's all good so far and no more divorces to navigate through. Whew !

We both have work obligations but it can be worked around.
I'm happy.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20377 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Take2
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm happy, you're happy!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4113 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I'm happy for you.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7697 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aw! Happy for you gma. You deserve it.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15402 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

gma - since it's a secret, I'll keep my squee very hushed.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((squee)))


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOOPEE!!!!!!


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus

***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Remarried 2/14/14


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Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You deserve it, gma!


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks ya'll !
I hope this is true in my case.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20377 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great lady
Kind of gives me a little hope about my breakup in May - similar timeline from D.

Really happy for you!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4560 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! Secret's out!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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cayc
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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

squeeee!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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gma56
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Cool  Posted: 11:59 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I missed him more than he will ever know. All 6'4" of him.

It was a needed break but the timing sucked.

Susi (unicornsearcher) had so much faith that he would be back. She knew what I didn't. I would love to tell her and tell her right now, she was right. Love and miss ya Susi ! She thought CW was one of a kind man. I agree.

[This message edited by gma56 at 2:19 AM, August 8th (Thursday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20377 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
gogirl
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful news...just love it!! Good for you two!


It's never too late to live happily ever after.


Posts: 572 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: North
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

gma, after the trauma of your marriage coupled with the trauma of Susi's death, I for one think you deserve some happiness. Good on you. Good on CW for realizing he had a good thing going!

Edited to add: And Susi already knows.

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 8:37 AM, August 8th (Thursday)]


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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