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User Topic: Why do I still feel this way?
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, so I've been nervous the past week or so that STBX would give me a hard time about the D and not sign off on the final papers, just to be an ass. I followed up with him today and he said he will sign and mail them this week. I'm keeping my fingers crossed as the week only has a couple more days!

Anyway, he also let me know that he finished moving everything out of the garage (something I've been asking him to do since last Spring) yet it tugged at my heart strings a bit. I don't get it. I want this divorce, I really do and I want his shit out of my garage. So why do I feel this way? I guess I'm still holding on to some sick need for remorse. I think it's because he seems so whatever about all of this. Like it was no big deal to walk out on his family and move OW in with him.

I know I will never see true remorse from him so I need to quit feeling bad about it. I know I'm healing and getting stronger all the time, but I haven't reached indifference yet. I can't wait to get there.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 822 | Registered: Mar 2013
fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Endings are difficult under the best of circumstances. These are not the best of circumstances. Stay strong.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Indifference takes a while, honey, but it will arrive.

In the meantime, cut yourself some slack. There is no quick and easy way to get there. This is a real loss with serious grieving to be done. ((((newlysingle))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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