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User Topic: OW looking at my FB???
flygirl123
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Question  Posted: 3:22 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My children just returned from a few days with Asshat and the Ho...

My oldest just informed me that the slunt was on my Facebook page looking at my pictures.

Can someone please tell me WHY?

I'm completely dumbfounded!


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bet this is actually very common. I've heard that once the OW "wins" her man she can often become preoccupied with the ex. Especially if you and your ex are cordial. She may see you as a threat or could just be unhappy that you and your ex have reached indifference. Remember, that their early relationship probably thrived on hating you. It was their "thing". Once that is gone it can leave the OW feeling insecure.

This is one of my biggest motivators for being civil with the STBX (other than the kids of course). I have a feeling it drives OW crazy.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 918 | Registered: Mar 2013
Walking
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I were you I would unfriend your husband( I presume that it how she gained access, logged in as him?) if not get those privacy settings turned on. The less she knows about you, your friends and your family, the better and why does your WS deserve any extra special glimpse into your life for that matter.

Posts: 57 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Midwest
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, that's why x is no longer a "friend" and O'whora is actually blocked.


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
flygirl123
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's the other funny thing...

Ex and I have not been FB friends for a loooong time. And my privacy settings are on, I thought.

I really don't give a shit if they look...but I DO wonder what on earth would possess them to? I do wonder why they even care, because I could give a shit less what's on theirs!?!?!

As far as us being civil? Not even close.

He is a rageful idiot...and I just don't care one iota.

So...what gives? Could it be that she is insecure?

I mean...she DID have him tattoo her name on his forearm (which I find unspeakably funny)...so could it be this?

Still dumbfounded.


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
flygirl123
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And I promised my son I would not tell their boob of a father that I know. I told him what he tells me is safe with me.

I just think its strange, funny, and still unfathomable.


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Could it be that she is insecure?

Is this a serious question? She was fucking a married man and now she is in a relationship with a serial cheater. Yes - she is insecure. Secure people don't do this shit.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
flygirl123
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Could it be that she is insecure?"

Is this a serious question? She was fucking a married man and now she is in a relationship with a serial cheater. Yes - she is insecure. Secure people don't do this shit.

I know, I know. Insane question, right?

I amaze myself sometimes with how dense I can be...ashamed to admit when it comes to this dumb broad that its too frequent.

When I read this response...I laughed out loud...because I realized how absurd it is for me to think otherwise about this useless twat!

[This message edited by flygirl123 at 5:01 PM, August 7th (Wednesday)]


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Block them both. You don't need this in your life. It also keeps you from checking their FB pages out. Much better for healing all the way around.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5243 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 1:35 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Block them both for sure.

On FB your cover photos are open to everyone - can't change privacy so I delete old ones and set my profile pic to private so they only see a thumbnail size pic and can't open it.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 6:17 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with the other post, block them.

That way they can't access your stuff no matter how much they try. If you have kids, then put restricted access on their FB pages. That way you are still their friends so you can keep an eye on the kids but they can't use your kids to access your stuff too. Works great for me


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1360 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go through your friends list and make sure you personally know very well everyone you are friends with. It could be she set up a fake Facebook and friended you and you did not catch it at the time.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 880 | Registered: Aug 2011
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes with OW it seems to be a contest, especially if they "win" the guy.

OW had a lengthy page of photos and stuff that was my life but her name and pictures and very strange.

It is a contest of sorts for some of them that simply should not be part of life.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


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