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User Topic: XH was pulled over for driving drunk...
miadianna
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Suspicious  Posted: 12:42 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And wouldn't you know, the police officer let him go. He called my 26 year-old son to brag about it. He said he was driving home from somewhere after drinking a lot (which he does on a regular basis) and was pulled over by a cop who smelled whiskey on his breath and said something like "I'm going to pretend I didn't smell that" and let him go without a ticket or a warning or anything. Just makes me mad.

Reminded me of when I called his company and asked for phone records (he was cheating with the company phone) and they told me they didn't care who their employees were calling and it was none of their business so they were going to turn the other cheek and I had no right to see who he was calling because the phone was not mine.

I have tried to teach my kids to do the right thing but when you have a father like this, it's like he is the kid and they are the adults. They both know how strongly I feel about this and from the time they were old enough to understand, we have had these talks. XH has been driving drunk for many years. That's why I stopped going to office parties with him. I said I would go if he could promise to have only one or two drinks or let me drive home and he said "I can't promise you that." So I stayed home. He was furious with me for that and would give me the silent treatment for weeks. Which meant he went to alone and God knows what happened with whom. I had to let it go. I just prayed he didn't kill anyone.

It makes me sick that he thinks it's funny and something to brag about.



Me: BS 53
Son: 27 years old
Daughter: 25 years old
D-day(s) 9/23/94 - 1/31/05
Divorced 4/10/08

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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This makes me angry too. What an irresponsible police officer. I was in a very serious accident a couple of years ago with a drunk driver that was speeding and driving recklessly. I was very lucky to make it out with the minor injuries that I had.

I also wonder about the values my STBX will instill in our children. He is morally bankrupt and sees nothing wrong with lying, cheating and stealing. It wouldn't surprise me if he drove drunk either. I feel so bad for our children here on SI.

Let's just hope that your stupid XH doesn't kill anyone else with his negligence.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's a different perspective...could xh be lying? That sounds exactly like something my x would do. He told me not long after we got married that he'd been in TYC (Texas Juvie). He said not to say anything in front of his mom cuz she was sensitive about it. It always struck me as weird, but I never pushed it. Turned out to be pure fabrication. He sat in MC and still didn't want to admit the truth 20 years later. He finally did, but offered no explanation as to what purpose the lie served.

Is it possible your x either never got pulled over and thinks the lie makes him look "cool" in his own eyes or did he really get a ticket and doesn't want to admit?

Hate to be so jaded, but ya know...


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

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hemademesingle
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My first thoughts were the same as LadyQ, that your x is lying to sound "cool", with everything about drinking and driving laws, unless the officer drinks and drives themselves, they wouldn't give a break to someone that they could smell whiskey on, they are the ones that go to the aftermath of the drunk drivers and see the horrific outcomes

If it is a true story that officer needs to be reported because he is not living up to his job description

That does sound like a story that my x dumbass would do tell to my kids, cause after all he would think that his kids would think he was cool, but they just think he's a fool


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nearly ExH got pulled over quite recently, while on the phone with DD.

If I let myself think about it, I get angry and wish he would have gotten in more trouble for being irresponsible, because he never gets a real consequence for all the scrapes he gets into.

He told DD "the policeman was understanding", but I can only imagine the stories he told. It was terrifying for DD, who worries like I used to for his safety. He's always driven too fast and I suspect gets a little thrill or ego boost with every time he gets out of trouble for something.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


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