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User Topic: Anyone who had a friend who was an adulterer?
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have never taken the position of "its not my place to tell." If you're gonna cheat, don't do it around me, cause I will tell.

A male friend of ours brought a new girl over one time, and when we happened to be outside alone, I asked if she knew he had a girlfriend. Turns out he didn't have that long term girlfriend anymore, and he's still my friend and they are still together 6 years later. My now very good girlfriend was just telling me how much she respects me for doing that..

Cheaters beware. ButterflyGirl WILL find your spouse and out you to them..

xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2622 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My best friend from high school lives on the opposite coast as me. 20 years or so ago she decided, seemingly out of the blue, to make a trip out to see me for a week. I found out after she arrived that her trip was to cover for an affair rendezvous.

She spent a few days with me and then she went to another city to spend time with her AP. She told me then she was planning to leave her marriage and so was her AP. She never did, though. To this day I don't know if her husband knows.

At the time, I didn't think of doing anything except supporting her in her choice to have an affair. My own experience with infidelity since then has really changed my perspective on what happened back then. I feel crummy that I was not a true friend to her or to her marriage (I was her maid of honor!) and I feel crummy that she used me to facilitate her affair.

We had kind of fallen out of touch anyway, but a couple of years ago when she reached out I just put off ever calling her back. She doesn't even know about my infidelity but my evolving perspective on the topic seems to preclude ever resuming my friendship with her.

Me: WS (52)
Him: Shards (47)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

Digging our way through.

Posts: 308 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Turning the corner.
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have never taken the position of "its not my place to tell." If you're gonna cheat, don't do it around me, cause I will tell.

Before DDay, I think I probably would have rationalized why I wouldn't want to say anything because I wouldn't want to BS to be hurt...but now. Or maybe some crap about it not being my business or something. Screw that. I want to let them know what the hell is happening TO THEM. Even if they hate me for it at first.

"If you are going to cheat, don't do it around me because I will tell." <--- I want to get this put on a shirt...wonder how many 'friends' I might lose...

Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 4:19 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a friend..a mow who was dating a mm.

The mm would never have intercourse with her. Oral sex and hand jobs. Lunch dates. They brought their kids into the mess (not his then 16 yr old dd, his two preteen boys and her young dd).

I tried saying look how im hurting, thats how she is hurting.

See the things wh is saying about me? Lies. Your mm is lying about his wife.

I quit talking to her for a yr bc of her affair. Then they were "just friends". Really? Thats why you look for his approval the way you dress? Thats why he tells you how to dress?

She was mean to her bh who was also a mom to a mow. The guy he had issues but she was mean to him.

The friendship ended because she climbed in bed with us and cuddled with wh. She tried apologising. She didnt understand what she did was wrong. That day she had also told me my wh always confides in her. So how was she talking to wh? Calling him through the vm so I wouldnt detect it? Calling the secret phone his ho gave him?

I had opened the door and invited the fox into the hen house.

Later things she said about a friend in a state 12 hrs away led me to believe she was his ow at one time.

No boundaries.
Always the victim.

Words to describe this ow.

People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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