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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nearly Exh is the type of person who can't stand to be wrong -it simply doesn't exist for him-and much more so, can't stand to be told he is wrong.

This is true for anyone in his life, for no one is immune...some of the job losses have been because of this-I think the narcissism-and it happened at work places over the years.

I remember him coming home in a livid state or making fun of people who challenged him by asking about a decision he made or being more bold than that.

This apparently was one of my "mistakes"-that I had the nerve to ask "why" over the years.

Anyway, when I am stronger, this humors me because he does make mistakes, and one of them is to sometimes mis-text, so that I get OW's messages. This happened again today, and I am angry because it caused me an emotional trigger.

For once I didn't reply when I was in tears, but waited for the anger to come back. I couldn't help it and I did write back some time later and just said "I am not amused."

It also highlights how different we are, because I simply cannot imagine texting a man not my husband. Even if I was not in the physical condition I'm in, I just don't think it's appropriate-even though we are divorcing, still I would wait.

Just a vent or something to share.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2287 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
peridot
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XH was never wrong. When he was wrong, he would never admit it. I don't know how my XH ever managed to keep a job but he's been at the same one for over a decade. I figured he would have gotten fired a long time ago.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
peridot
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XH was never wrong. When he was wrong, he would never admit it. I don't know how my XH ever managed to keep a job but he's been at the same one for over a decade. I figured he would have gotten fired a long time ago.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The sad clown pulled this shit a few times.

"Accident" my arse.

I acknowledged the first and it continued. I ignored the rest and it stopped.

Ignore. If indeed it is a mistake if he's not mindful after the first time you acknowledge it he won't be mindful going forward.

If he is doing it on purpose then you need to starve him off Ashland ego kibbles.

Let the fucker starve.

One day what he says/does won't in this regard won't make you sad or angry, you'll shrug your shoulders and say "meh" .... delete.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Same here...never ever wrong no matter how much reality contradicts that belief.

This reminds me of a ridiculous thing that happened years ago. Ex had a knee brace that he wore at work sometimes due to knee pain. He woke me up one morning asking what I did with it. I hadn't seen it and I told him so. He didn't believe me because he was ABSOLUTELY certain that he left it on our bed.

A few days later he found it....in his work locker! Did he apologize for accusing me of losing something of his? Hell no! He STILL swore that he left it on the bed and had no clue how it could have possibly ended up at work! Aliens? Thieving unicorns? Ghosts who love practical jokes?

He had no explanation for how it ended up at work because he was 100% sure that he left it on the bed. Even years later he still believes he left it on the bed and some unexplained phenomenon caused it to show up in his work locker.

A similar thing happened more recently when he misplaced something during our last move together. He blamed me and told me that I must have thrown it away without noticing (it was something pretty big and heavy so I assured him I would remember throwing it away). He even told my mother who was visiting us at the time that he knew I threw it away. He later found it mixed in with his junk and didn't tell me. No apologies.

Just a couple of the many, many red flags that I ignored.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:03 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. STBX is never wrong. Never does anything wrong. He's the Perpetual Victim.

Good for you for recognizing your trigger!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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