So, I ran in to a "mutual" friend of the OW and I. I say "mutual" bc she's more of an ex co-worker to WH and was friends with him and OW when they worked together. I did not officially meet this friend until WH and I R, and she seemed nice. I never really reached out or tried to be friends. We had dinner with her and her husband, who happens to be one of WH good friends.
Anyways, I run in to her and were talking about random day to day stuff. I cannot remember what it was that I said, but I clearly was not thinking about the OW connection when she says "I know...me and OW don't talk anymore". I'm sure my look of confusion threw her off, and she started just outing EVERYTHING out. Like she felt bad that she was friends with both of us. So, it was very interesting to hear what she had to say. Keep in mind, this woman was friends with WH and OW as a couple and they all hung out. According to her, her husband would always tell her that OW was shady, but she never believed him. Then the most shocking thing to me, if its true: OW could only say nice things about me. Ow was jealous that I have my degree and an "admirable" job, and that I was so pretty and so skinny that she couldn't understand WHY WH had left me for her. According to this friend, the OW would always talk about how nice I was (when I confronted her, I never once was. Bitch. I wanted to "humanize" myself to her and make her guilt be so strong that it would kill her. I didn't want to "justify" her actions and give her the pleasure of being the bitch wife and no wonder he left u attitude. It completely threw her off as she was ready to fight, but I have her nothing to fight with. I remember thinking that after I initially spoke to her) and she would always say how pretty I was and was obsessed with my body and how skinny and fit I was and she couldn't understand what WH saw in her when he had a beautiful wife.
Like I said, who knows if its true. All I said was "well that's nice. I don't hate the woman, I just prefer to not speak about her or waste my energy or thoughts on that sitauation. It's been 4 years, and if I can forgive WH, then Why should I hold a grudge against her" and we moved on.
Even if its all a lie, DAMN that felt good! During that whole situation my ego was crushed, i felt lower than scum, and the whole time, this woman supposedly thought I was "strong and beautiful" and felt guilty for what she did....supposedly. My whole "kill them with kindness" seemed to have worked...
Oh and my karma that I always wanted for her came, but she covers it pretty damn well. Since WH left her, she has been in 4 "serious" relationships, and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM cheated on her! I shouldn't find joy in someone being cheated on, but karma is a bitch!