"Men always cheat."
Her grandmother didn't help. She told her I was cheating. This was during hunting season. I would go every weekend that I could. Her grandmother told her there was no way I could hunt that much and not get anything. My thought was "Maybe I am not like your family and kill every thing I see, legal or not."
She also told her "men always cheat".
"A thief believes everybody steals."
E. W. Howe
Who dares, wins
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
Looking back I wonder if was hoping I was cheating to make herself feel better?
The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.
I think they try to look for any excuse to justify their actions.
Man, just remembering that is making me
D-Day June 12th 2008, D-Day #2 Sept 28th
D-Day #3 Feb 15th & 16th 2010, D-Day #4 Nov 29th 2010
Rest In Peace Bo the Beagle 1996-2011
"if you ever chest on me, you better tell me."
I heard this instead "you better be using protection." The most protection she used was spermicide (I find it in her van).
“I'm losing my mind in a bedroom with a ghost
and I'm losing my mind in a bottle while I choke
I stayed years with you, no one knows (but I want them to).”
– Thought Industry
During the first A she tried to set me up with her bff. "See, I'm thinking of you."
As soon as DDay happened, WS said to me that he "never knew what was really going on there" and it made him feel insecure. He never felt he could trust me to tell him the truth about that relationship. I started hysterically crying and told him nothing ever happened.
The first thing my father said to me when he heard about DDay was that my friendship with exBF probably was part of the problem.
It kills me that he thought anything was going on and that we never really talked about it. The idea that he spent years feeling insecure and self-conscious about it kills me. I never meant to make him feel that way. If he wanted to R and told me NC with exBF was part of the deal, I'd do it in a second.
In retrospect, I think I can see how that friendship could be construed as an EA. WS and I are not R, so I feel terrible on some level that this remains yet another loose end with us to some extent. After DDay exBF's girlfriend got pregnant and they got married, so I think he would seem like less of a threat to a new partner in the future. I hope, anyway.
[This message edited by PhantomLimb at 10:16 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]
Met when we were 17 and 15. Together since 1983, married since 1985. Two kids, B21, G15.
Life has a way of making us get our panties in a wad.....I refuse to wear panties ever again.
I never said the same back to fWS because it was unfathomable to me that she would cheat knowing how that had destroyed my childhood. Hmmm, yeah not so much.
It was interesting that the one person she demanded NC for me was the XGF I was with way before meeting fWS. When I met fWS xGF and I had been broken up for over four years but fWS still found her very threatening for some reason. Shoulder shrug.
And then there were some of my coworkers that just out of no where from my perspective she would forbid me to text them / email them after hours. In retrospect she seemed to have good radar as other colleagues later informed me both these young women were angling for me. Evidently I am obtuse and clueless or so says some of my work friends!
"I was really upset how you got along with all the guys at work"
One before we got retrenched I WORKED WITH HIM
2. Never mentioned it at all to me
3. I don't even talk to those guys anymore! And didn't after we got retrenched!
He's always been jelous so I do acknowledge there is a strong possibility he thought that was the case. But he could of mentioned it!
After D-day he tried to say he thought I was trying to hook up with dad-instructor dude. It was pathetic, really XH grasping at straws to justify his own bullshit. I LAUGHED in his face. Like yeah, I had a hard on for an older guy that reminded me of my own father.