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User Topic: Empowered
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DD was almost 3 weeks ago, and it's been an emotional roller coaster ever since. My WH immediately initiated NC, but it seems his OW didn't really believe him. She started showing up in random places online...messaging him looking for acknowledgement, messaging his FB friends...he hasn't taken the bait. Her attempts escalated, and before I knew it, I had both her and her adult son emailing ME horrible messages...spilling details about the affair (which I was aware of, since my WH had already fessed up to what she was telling me).

My WH called her BS earlier this week. He took accountability, apologized, and told him he would answer any questions he had...but we also needed him to tell his wife to leave us alone.

Contacting him made the messages worse...so yesterday we filed an Injunction Against Harassment. I don't think she will be bothering us again.

She doesn't get to go through life, holding a dirty little secret over my husband's head. She doesn't get the satisfaction of telling me things she thinks I don't already know.

For the 1st time in 3 weeks, I'm feeling strong and empowered.


BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

Posts: 248 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! That sounds really scary. So glad you got the injunction.

How are you feeling? Are you sleeping okay? Any PTSD type symptoms?


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2076 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
kickboxer
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm feeling okay.

Except that I have this constant pit in my chest/stomach. It won't go away...I feel like I may never experience joy again without this pit ripping at my insides.

I'm trying really hard to be present in our life. I'm trying hard not to waste all my energy thinking about what has happened.

But this stupid pit won't ever let me just put it all aside.


BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

Posts: 248 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow... that sounds horrible to deal with. I also think the injunction was the right way to go.

Hang in there, and let us know how it works out for you.


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